Jiang Rui said: "If this fish bone was an unintentional mistake, you can remind him not to do it again. If he did it intentionally and refuses to change despite repeated admonitions, then we must seize his weakness and give him a strong counterattack, but it must be

Stay rational, discuss the matter as it is, and don't expand the conflict. Since it is a fish bone, just pull it out. There is no need to dig out all the flesh around the fish bone. Many people will divorce because of a small conflict, just like pricking their hands.

He picked up a fish bone, but instead of pulling out the fish bone, he chopped off his entire finger because of the tiny fish bone. Not only did he not eliminate his troubles, but it made him more painful and uncomfortable."

Although Jiang Rui's metaphor was very simple, the truth was profound. But at this time, Wang Jiayi had no intention of tasting the truth in his words. Jiang Rui's magnetic voice made Wang Jiayi very fascinated. It is said that men are visual animals and women are visual animals.

Hearing animals, Jiang Rui's voice almost turned into sweet music for Wang Jiayi, which Wang Jiayi enjoyed very much. She couldn't control her emotions and said: "Jiang Rui, people say there are no perfect people in this world.

But you are almost perfect."

Jiang Rui looked sad, and he said to Wang Jiayi in his heart: Perfect? ​​Perfect is the surface, but you know nothing about the pain behind perfection.

Jiang Rui asked: "Do you think you are a perfect person?"

Wang Jiayi shook her head: "Of course not, I have many shortcomings."

"But to outsiders, you are beautiful, capable and perfect."

Wang Jiayi had a wry smile on her face: "That's because they don't understand me."

Jiang Rui nodded, "Yes, you think I'm perfect, isn't it because of this reason? Perfect people definitely don't exist, perfect love definitely doesn't exist, and perfect marriage doesn't even exist.

.If we want to be happy, we don’t rely on perfect people, perfect love, and perfect marriage, but we must use a positive attitude to look at everything that is imperfect.”

"Jiang Rui, I understand all the truths you said. Even if you have a thousand or ten thousand shortcomings, in my eyes, you are still perfect." When saying this, Wang Jiayi looked at her with eager eyes.

Looking at Jiang Rui, hoping to get a positive response from him.

Jiang Rui looked at Wang Jiayi and said, "Why do you feel inferior?"

Wang Jiayi was shocked and didn't understand why Jiang Rui suddenly said such a sentence, "Me? Inferiority?"

"Yes, you, in your heart, actually have low self-esteem."

"Where do I feel inferior?"

"People will want everything perfect because of their low self-esteem and insecurity. In particular, they will eagerly hope that their partner is perfect and wish that they could take care of everything for them. Your ex-husband, because he cannot meet your needs, so

That’s why you’ll leave him.”

"Actually, my needs are very simple. A bigger house, a better location, and enough money to buy a car are enough. What I want is not his perfection, I just want him to meet my basic needs.

"

"If you divorce him because you hope that the next man can meet these needs, it can only be said that the divorce has not allowed you to grow beneficially. This divorce does not make much sense."

"I don't understand what you mean."

"The crux of your problem does not lie in these needs at all. Although your house is smaller and you don't have enough money to buy a car, your basic living needs are not a problem. You divorced because of these. In the final analysis, it is actually an inferiority complex at work.

Think about it carefully, why do you feel inferior? Only by understanding this can you find the key to solving your spiritual dilemma."

Wang Jiayi fell into deep thought.

Jiang Rui enlightened: "Inferiority is closely related to jealousy and vanity."

"Jealousy and vanity?" Wang Jiayi had to admit that she was a woman with jealousy and vanity. Jiang Rui was indeed a psychology expert. He didn't have much contact with her, but she could see through her own heart. Wang Jiayi also understood that she could trigger

Jealousy and vanity are often caused by the people around her. Her social network is not wide, and there are only a few people around her. She does not feel inferior in front of Sun Haowen. She has no reason to feel inferior in front of Ren Li, but feels superior.

Feeling. But in front of Fan Yunxuan, she really felt inferior. She did not have a Beijing registered permanent residence, but she acknowledged that Fan Yunxuan was a native Beijing girl, and she couldn't compare with her in this regard. But in other aspects, Fan Yunxuan was also inferior.

Looking at her, she does not have a house as big as Fan Yunxuan, a car as good as Fan Yunxuan, and her ex-husband is not as good as Fan Yunxuan's husband. She is not willing to accept these things. Her unwillingness started from college.

It arose from the defeat in various fashion design competitions during this period. Perhaps, only by surpassing Fan Yunxuan in quality of life and surpassing Fan Yunxuan in fashion design talent can she overcome this unwillingness. Jiang Rui's words made her

She understood that her unwillingness was actually jealousy, vanity, and in the final analysis, low self-esteem. Could this be the reason for her divorce from Sun Haowen?

The more she thought about it, the more confused she became. She could not confirm the correctness of the inference inspired by Jiang Rui. But she could confirm that she had fallen in love with Jiang Rui. But did Jiang Rui love her? If she doesn't love her now, then through her own efforts, she will

Fall in love with her?

Wang Jiayi said: "Before getting married, every girl has infinite longings for the future. But as she lives her life, her smiles become less and less, and everything is different from what she originally expected. Some people cannot bear it.

I am stronger and will endure it forever. I can't stand it. I can't stand the feeling of my soul being burned. It's very uncomfortable. So I chose to divorce. Junxuan always feels that my divorce is not worth it. But I think it is worth it, because

I'm lucky enough to meet the excellent you..." When she said this, she kept looking at Jiang Rui with burning eyes.

Jiang Rui said: "Can't stand the feeling of your soul being burned? In your eyes, your ex-husband is simply heinous, and he actually made you suffer such great mental torture."

Wang Jiayi said: "He is a good person, but living with him is just uncomfortable."

Jiang Rui said: "Your life should have been relatively smooth since childhood. You received a lot of pampering and even doting from your parents."

Wang Jiayi said: "My parents are also very ordinary people. I am their only daughter, and they really pamper me. My mother said that daughters must be rich, otherwise they will be easily abducted by poor boys. But I still let

This poor boy Sun Haowen was abducted, and my mother was very angry."

"She should be very happy that you are divorced from Sun Haowen now."

"I haven't dared to tell her about my divorce yet."

"Why don't you dare to say it?"

"Her thinking is quite traditional. Although she is not very satisfied with Sun Haowen, since she is already married, we should live together forever. If I tell her that I am divorced, she will definitely get angry. When I get my next relationship, I will

It’s not too late to tell her.”

"With your current mentality, it will be difficult to find a suitable next home, and even if you find one, it may not last long."

"Why?"

"Because your last marriage didn't allow you to reflect enough. When you meet other men in the future, you may not face less trouble than you did with Sun Haowen."

"I divorced Sun Haowen because my life is becoming increasingly unhappy. I hope that my future life can be happier, happier, and less financially stressful. That's all. I think this pursuit of my life is all

The most basic thing is that if you are with Sun Haowen, you will have to be an ascetic for the rest of your life and live an unchanging life for the rest of your life."

"No one likes to live a static life. Everyone wants to live a more colorful life. This kind of desire is normal. But it is a big mistake to pin the hope of changing your life on your partner.

That’s really wrong, because the risks hidden here are too great.”

"You may have misunderstood me. I am not just talking. I can earn money by myself. What I want is happiness."

"Happiness is not given by others, it must be earned by oneself."

"I'm working hard for it, aren't I? I look forward to you coming every day, looking forward to sitting with you and chatting. I am striving for happiness!" Wang Jiayi's words are tantamount to saying: "I love you,

I want to date you, I want to be with you, you are where my happiness lies." She is no longer a shy girl, and she is not in the mood to play the half-covered game of a shy girl. But her infatuation is

No less than any other person. She also knew vaguely that such an eager confession was not very good. Jiang Rui should be suitable for the kind of relationship that gradually heats up like a slow simmer, but she couldn't control herself.

She loves Jiang Rui so much that she will spare no effort to win this fate.

Of course Jiang Rui understood Wang Jiayi's thoughts, and he also spoke straightforwardly: "You may find living with Sun Haowen monotonous and boring. Compared with him, my level of monotony should be no less impressive."

"You're rejecting me, aren't you?"

"What I said is the truth, it's just that you don't understand it."

Wang Jiayi looked disappointed and reluctantly squeezed out a few words through her teeth: "If this is really the case, do you think your life is interesting?".

Jiang Rui said: "The boring life in your eyes seems to me and Sun Haowen to be enjoyable, because we are all immersed in the things we like. And the things we like to do, in your eyes

It's just the boring stuff."

"Can't you make some changes for the woman you love? If you can't, it only means that you don't love her deeply enough."

"This has nothing to do with love or not. It is determined by living habits, hobbies, work environment and personality. Jiayi, you just need to remember that happiness does not depend on what your other half gives, but you have to strive for it yourself.

"

"You guys are like this, how can I fight for it?!"

"Then what kind of life do you think is a happy life?"

"A happy life means being happy every day."

"The question is, who in this world can be happy every day? Most people spend most of their days in dullness, and they can only experience happiness in dullness. Of course, many times,

You will also chew pain in the dullness. Different people feel different about the same dullness. People with low desires are often more likely to feel happy, while people with high desires are often dissatisfied. Perhaps, this is
Chapter completed!