Chapter 146 Emotional strategist (15)
Jiang Rui said: "Many women dream that God can tailor-make a suitable person for her and send it to her. God is not a tailor, and men are not clothes. They cannot be tailor-made. They all need to blend in and blend in.
The process is bound to be painful and torturous, but in the end you understand the other person's shortcomings and are willing to accept those shortcomings. You understand how to adapt to the other person and how to make the other person adapt to you. This process is worth it."
Wang Jiayi asked: "How can we keep running in?"
"Tolerance is very important. Tolerance is needed for running-in, and tolerance is indispensable for happiness."
"Tolerance is important, but finding the right person is even more important. Tolerance is meaningful only when you find the right person. Your ex-wife left you, and for you, she is not the right person. Just like my ex-husband,
For me, he is not the right person. If we meet by chance, maybe we will become the most suitable person for each other." As she said this, Wang Jiayi looked at Jiang Rui with eager eyes.
Jiang Rui smiled bitterly and said, "Have you carefully analyzed the reasons for the failure of your marriage?"
"I don't feel happy anymore when I'm with him. I've already tasted the result. The reason is not that important."
"Then how can you be sure that you will be happy if you are with me?"
"..."
"If you can't learn the lessons from the failure of your first marriage well, then relying on intuition alone cannot guarantee the success of your next marriage."
Wang Jiayi pursed her lips and said: "His and I have very different life backgrounds and family environments. When we were dating online, the things he talked about with me seemed so strange and interesting to me. Life is really funny,
The differences in life that initially attracted me turned into incompatible conceptual differences."
"That is to say, not being in the right family is one of the reasons why you parted ways."
Wang Jiayi nodded slightly, "Furthermore, in terms of personality, he is relatively rigid and boring. Apart from home and work, there is almost no social interaction. He can live a life of two o'clock and one line of work for decades, but I can't.
It’s really boring to live this same life for ten years.”
"In other words, you wanted to change your lifestyle, so you left him."
Wang Jiayi nodded, "There is indeed a big difference in personality between him and me. Besides, there is the age-old problem of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My ex-mother-in-law was a very nice person, but her life
Her habits and mine are really incompatible. She comes from a remote mountainous area and lives a very rough life. I have lived in urban Chengdu since I was a child, and I always pay attention to refinement. It is really difficult to live under the same roof."
Jiang Rui smiled bitterly and said: "To sum up, your goal in choosing a mate should be someone who is the right match for you, and whose life should be colorful and interesting. In daily life, it should be more refined and not rough, right?
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Wang Jiayi also smiled bitterly and said, "Isn't it too idealistic?"
Jiang Rui nodded, "It's very idealistic..."
Wang Jiayi said: "I think your life should be more colorful and interesting, and you must have higher requirements for the quality of life. As for the issue of being a good match, I think if I can be with you, I will be a high achiever."
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Jiang Rui smiled bitterly again, "Perhaps, the real situation is contrary to your imagination. I usually work at two o'clock and one line at a time. I don't like to socialize much. I like to be alone. I like to hide in the study quietly and read. And I'm not very particular.
The book may be placed nearby casually, and it is not like those perfectionists who put it back where they took it from. Everything is neat and orderly, but I feel uncomfortable."
Wang Jiayi looked at Jiang Rui, with disappointment and doubt on her face.
Jiang Rui said: "I am telling the truth. For some people, these may be considered shortcomings, but for others, they will consider them advantages. A man with two points and one line can live a good life.
Simple, family-oriented, and considerate, but those men who hang out at various dinner parties all day rarely stay with women, and instead receive complaints."
Wang Jiayi's brain went blank again, unable to think normally. This is a phenomenon that only occurs after suffering a major blow. Jiang Rui's few words were indeed a huge blow to Wang Jiayi. The stronger the hope, the more cruel the disappointment.
What disappoints her is not the "shortcomings" Jiang Rui talked about, but the information behind Jiang Rui's words: he has no interest in her. But if he wants to develop into
No matter what the relationship between a man and a woman is willing to do, he will not disclose his shortcomings to the other party so straightforwardly. Of course, people can regard this as frankness, but if the things he is willing to be honest about are things that the other party does not like, it can only mean that he
He doesn't care about her feelings at all, because he doesn't have love, so he doesn't hide it. Wang Jiayi seems to understand that there is no God-given fate, and all this is just her own wishful thinking.
Wang Jiayi felt that she should not continue to sit here, or that she should not have met and gotten acquainted with Jiang Rui at all. She left the tea bar and returned to the company. Her steps were heavy and her heart was even heavier. She felt that God was playing a big trick on her.
It's a joke. To her, Jiang Rui is just an illusory existence, like a mirage. Although it appears in front of her eyes, it is still an illusion...
As soon as they returned to the company, Fan Yunxuan and Ren Li gathered around. Ren Li asked about the progress of their relationship. Wang Jiayi said: "There is no progress, God is just kidding me." After that, she sat down at her workstation.
Above, depressed and expressionless.
Fan Yunxuan said: "I'm going to meet that Jiang Rui."
Ren Li said: "I'll go too."
Fan Yunxuan said: "You don't want to go."
Ren Li said: "I asked him for an autograph or something."
Fan Yunxuan said: "Just save it! It's really not suitable for you to go."
Fan Yunxuan's expression made Ren Li feel something strange.
Fan Yunxuan came to the tea bar, and Jiang Rui was still sitting there.
Fan Yunxuan sat opposite him with a smile and said: "Jiayi is very sad now. Although I don't know what you talked about, she is very fond of you. It seems that you gave her to
Rejected."
Jiang Rui smiled unnaturally.
Fan Yunxuan continued: "It's a pity that she got divorced. You told her a lot. I don't know when she will come back from her lost ways."
Jiang Rui said: "She and I haven't discussed the step of remarriage yet, and I don't know if there will be another chance. Even if I come back tomorrow, she may not come to see me."
While speaking, Jiang Ruidou's big beads of sweat rolled down from his forehead.
Fan Yunxuan was a little surprised. The temperature in the room was not high. Why was Jiang Rui sweating profusely?
"Jiang Rui, what's wrong with you?" Fan Yunxuan asked with concern.
Jiang Rui took out a handkerchief to wipe his sweat and said lightly: "It's nothing."
The Jiang Rui in front of her felt strange to Fan Yunxuan. In the past, Jiang Rui always had a happy smile on his face and exuded an enthusiastic and unrestrained atmosphere. No matter what the occasion, he spoke neatly and refreshingly. And
At this time, whether it was his expression or words, Jiang Rui revealed
What comes out is indescribable sadness - this is so unlike Jiang Rui. In high school, the always cheerful Fan Yunxuan and Jiang Rui had a bad temper, and the two maintained a pure friendship like buddies; after entering college,
The two have always kept in touch; after graduating from college, they also met from time to time
Let's get together. What makes Fan Yunxuan puzzling is that at the class reunion last year, Jiang Rui was still very fat. In less than a year, Jiang Rui changed from a fat man to a "sporty man". Faintly,
Fan Yunxuan felt that the change in his body shape was not the result of weight loss, but probably due to
Because of some kind of disease. At this time, Jiang Rui's eye sockets were slightly sunken, his eyes were no longer shining, and he was a little dull in his sadness - frustrated, even hopeless. What happened to him?
An ominous premonition came over Fan Yunxuan's heart, and she couldn't help but frown.
At this time, Wang Jiayi was sitting in front of the computer, staring at the computer screen in a daze. She was upset and had no intention of working. Ren Li knew that she was feeling very uncomfortable, so she brought a cup of coffee and put it on her desk, then sat next to her and expressed her heartache.
He looked at her with his eyes and stayed with her.
Wang Jiayi said to herself: "Why does God have to be so hard on me? Why should my best hopes turn into the biggest disappointments, and the most beautiful yearnings turn into the most heartbreaking pain?"
Ren Li said: "If you want to avoid harm, you can only give up the initiative and make condescending choices."
Wang Jiayi sighed and said: "If you are twenty years old, of course you can be as condescending as fishing, because there are many fish that want to bite the hook. But in my current situation, those who are willing to take the initiative to bite the hook are all unreliable.
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"Since you have chosen to take the initiative, you must be prepared for pain."
"I guess I won't even have pain nerves anymore. I don't think I can love anymore."
"Don't talk nonsense. There is a saying, a leaf blinds the eye and cannot see Mount Tai. You can't numb your hot heart just because of Jiang Rui. Without Jiang Rui, there are others...for example...Sun
Haowen...after three dynasties, I think he is the most suitable for you..."
Wang Jiayi shook her head, "I'm really tired of living with him."
"Yunxuan and I have always hoped that you and your ex-brother-in-law would remarry. If you are really determined not to get back together with him, then Junxuan and I may have to readjust our direction."
Wang Jiayi smiled bitterly and said: "I should have known that during my entire blind date, you two have been sabotaging me and you didn't want me to succeed at all."
Ren Li said with a puzzled look: "Then I don't understand. Yunxuan has always wanted you to remarry Sun Haowen. Why would she go to Jiang Rui to talk about it? If she wants to turn the tide and save you and Jiang Rui's relationship,
It makes sense for her to go to Jiang Rui for feelings. She doesn't want you and Jiang Rui to have any good progress, so why is she going to Jiang Rui?"
Wang Jiayi also felt strange: "That's right. Since she doesn't want good progress between me and Jiang Rui, why would she go to Jiang Rui to talk about it?"
Chapter completed!