Jiang Rui asked: "So, he is a very unmotivated person?"

"That's not true. Although he is motivated, he sets his ceiling too low. He thinks that his abilities have reached the ceiling of his life, and he doesn't want to break through."

"If a person who knows how to make progress does not want to make a breakthrough in his life, it is mostly due to his character and environment. Such people are often more cautious and are afraid of wolves before doing things. Of course, if big changes occur in the living environment, for example,

If he suddenly loses his job, is laid off, the factory closes down, and his life reaches a low point, he will definitely bottom out and rebound."

"He will not lose his job or be laid off because he is the technical backbone of his company. His company will not go bankrupt either. Well-known large central enterprises are doing well!"

"From what I hear, he's quite good. Why should we separate him?"

"At first, I got together with him in pursuit of happiness; now, because I am unhappy, I divorce him. To put it simply, it's that simple."

"In other words, you were in love and happy before?"

Wang Jiayi nodded.

Jiang Rui said: "Your situation is very common. Marriage has an emotional basis, but problems arise during the business process."

"If he could be as considerate as you, there would be no problem." After saying this, Wang Jiayi's thinking stopped and she could only stare at Jiang Rui.

After a moment of silence, Jiang Rui said: "But my marriage also failed."

"That doesn't mean your marriage failed. It's because of objective factors that you can't stay together." Wang Jiayi said eagerly.

Jiang Rui said: "If you and your ex-husband could afford a house in a good school district, would you divorce? Wasn't your breakup due to objective factors?"

"This is just one aspect, there are many other factors. Thinking about it now, this marriage was too hasty. I got together with him before I fully understood what I really needed. From you

, I discovered what he lacked, and you are the person I really look forward to." Before coming here for a "date", Wang Jiayi had no intention of confessing, because she knew that it was better for girls to be more reserved, and

, she also knows very well that the confession should not be too hasty. A lot of preparation is needed before the confession. For example, it is necessary to thoroughly understand whether the other party really likes her. However, her reason can no longer control her emotions, and her thinking is no longer under control.

, like a wild horse running wild, galloping at will. Perhaps, this is the proper situation when encountering true love!

Jiang Rui said: "What attracts you to me?"

Wang Jiayi said affectionately: "Your handsomeness and your talent."

Jiang Rui said: "I am handsome. If you bring me to your companions, you will feel very proud. Is this love? This is vanity. I have talent, and my talent will bring wealth and make you live a prosperous life."

Is this love in life? This is greed for enjoyment. Of course, I admit that love without any conditions is a fairy tale and unrealistic. But when you really enter the palace of marriage, you should not only consider your own

In addition to interests, you must also consider your own responsibilities, and you are obviously not mentally prepared in this regard. Perhaps this is the root cause of your divorce from your ex-husband."

Wang Jiayi didn't expect Jiang Rui to say that about herself. She retorted: "How can you say that about me? How much do you know about my previous marriage status and you make such a rash accusation?!"

Jiang Rui said: "There are many reasons for divorce, but in summary, it is nothing more than that the other party cannot satisfy his wishes and does not achieve unconditional tolerance and dedication. The reason why modern marriages are so fragile is because everyone is too

If you love yourself, you just hope that the other person will accommodate you, and you don’t have enough patience to solve problems when you encounter them. No matter whether it is a man or a woman, once you enter into a marriage, you must clearly understand your responsibilities, your responsibilities to your children, and your responsibilities to your spouse.

Responsibility, responsibility to the elderly. There is nothing wrong with a person's pursuit of new happiness, but if this pursuit is based on giving up responsibility, he will not achieve true happiness."

Wang Jiayi said: "Although I divorced him, I will still bear the responsibilities that I should bear. Pursuing new happiness does not mean giving up the original responsibilities. I understand this truth. Jiang Rui, there is a saying that 'fate is destined.

', I didn't believe it before, but now I do. When I broke up with him and met you, I felt that, somehow, this was God's arrangement."

Jiang Rui looked at her, noncommittal.

Wang Jiayi continued: "I have never seen you before when I came to this tea bar. When I was most disappointed, you appeared here and sat in my usual place. Isn't this God's will? Still

Yes, your voice on the radio made me obsessed with listening to it. Although I had never seen you at that time, I could imagine from your voice that you must be a thin and handsome man. Facts have proved that you and I are

The imagination is very consistent. All this shows that our fate is destined." After speaking, Wang Jiayi looked at Jiang Rui with eager eyes, hoping that her confession would be recognized by Jiang Rui.

After a moment of silence, Jiang Rui said: "Many people in life can maintain a long-distance relationship with their partner for many years, but after they really live together, they can't tolerate each other. Do you know why?"

Wang Jiayi said: "Because we are in a different place, we have less contact and don't understand enough."

Jiang Rui nodded, "Because we are in different places and rarely see each other, we all cherish the rare time together and must show the best to each other. The other person's shortcomings are either not discovered in time, or they are swept away by the aura of love.

Cover it up. But when you really live together and see the true side of the other person, and the halo disappears, you realize that the other person is not the person you imagined at all. Do you understand what I mean?"

"You mean, I love you too blindly?"

"You must never let your loved one live in imagination, you must make a rational judgment in reality."

"In the future, we can meet more often and chat more, so won't we be able to identify each other well?"

"What do you think your ideal partner should be like?"

"Mature, stable, and know how to care about others, just like you."

"Is your ex-husband immature, unstable, and doesn't care about you?"

Wang Jiayi thought for a while, and it seemed not. Sun Haowen was also mature, stable, and caring about himself, but he was just one of the ordinary people. There was nothing special about him. Unlike Jiang Rui in front of him, Jiang Rui was the best among men.

, can be encountered but cannot be sought.

Jiang Rui added: "According to your previous brief description, the problem between you and him is mainly about money. If he can afford a big house in a good school district, you will not divorce him, right?"

Wang Jiayi nodded slightly, and she had to admit in her heart that Sun Haowen was a good man. If he could afford to buy a big house in a good school district, they would not have those conflicts, or in other words, their conflicts would not be so

It can't be reconciled.

Jiang Rui continued: "Money may not make people happy. On the contrary, it may make a simple life complicated. Observe the people around you more and see if this is the case?"

Wang Jiayi said: "Even if he doesn't have a big house, if he had your high emotional intelligence, he and I would not have gone to the stage of divorce. The house is only one aspect, and his ability to deal with emotional problems is also lacking."

Jiang Rui said: "You chose to be with him in the first place, which shows that he also has advantages that other men cannot match. Men are like mountains. The mountain here is majestic, the mountain over there is magnificent, you can stand

You can enjoy the scenery of another mountain from the top of this mountain, but if you rush to another mountain desperately, you will not only waste your youth, but the result may not be ideal."

After hearing this, Wang Jiayi's heart was a little confused, swinging between hope and despair. She looked at Jiang Rui, and Jiang Rui was also looking at her. Even though his face was expressionless, in Wang Jiayi's view, his temperament was still

It reveals an elegance that Sun Haowen does not have. This elegance is breathtaking, like a bottle of mellow wine, exuding a rich aroma, which makes people want to have a taste. Wang Jiayi thinks that she has passed the stage of love first.

She was young, but Jiang Rui in front of her confused her mind, turning her into an anti-intellectual girl, like a moth, trying to pounce on the web of love at first sight...

Wang Jiayi asked: "Did you and your ex-wife live happily before the divorce?"

Jiang Rui said: "I am very happy."

Wang Jiayi nodded slightly, "Yes, you have the ability to handle emotional problems well, so you will be very happy. Not every man has your ability. I am very lucky to be your wife. She doesn't even know

Cherish, I actually left you. If I were me, no matter how good my career prospects are abroad, I would never leave. Meeting you requires extremely good luck."

Jiang Rui retorted: "Finding the right person does not rely on luck, but on ability - the ability to recognize and identify people. If two people want to have a good relationship, it does not rely on luck, but on hard work - working hard to resolve conflicts.

good."

"Many people don't know how to work hard. My ex-husband and I have also worked hard, but the direction of our efforts always deviates from the actual needs of the other party."

"No one has roundworms in his belly, so how can there be no deviation? My ex-wife and I often had deviations in the past."

"Then, how did you solve it?"

"We all understand the truth that finding a suitable partner does not mean that it will be settled once and for all. At different times and under different circumstances, each other must make corresponding changes to maintain happiness. If you always think about it, you must

If you let the other person take the initiative to give you happiness, then he (she) will definitely not be happy."
Chapter completed!