Chapter 35 A good start
Ou Yumin and the others were also restless when sitting in the living room, especially Shangguan Yin, who was particularly unstable.
"Uncle Shangguan, it's okay!" Ou Yumin comforted, "Li Li is a doctor of psychology and has a lot of clinical experience. Don't worry, she will definitely help Jin Jin get better."
"Yes, brother, we must believe that Li Li and believe that Jin Jin will definitely get better!" Ouyang Sheng also said in agreement.
"Brother, it's not that I don't believe in Li Li," Shangguan Yin choked, "I don't believe in myself. Over the years, I have been doing my own behavior for the whole family and for Jin Jin's good, so that Jin Jin's school was allowed to stay in school. In fact, it was because I was too selfish and Jin Jin's appearance was so similar to her mother. At that time, Jin Jin's mother cheated on her during marriage, and my mind was like a mess. I couldn't face her, so I had to devote myself to my work, thinking that I could forget Jin Jin's mother. Later, I was negligent about Jin Jin's remarriage. By the time I wanted to care about her and discipline her, she had grown up and no longer needed my company and education."
Shangguan Yin paused and continued, "I really regret it. I didn't handle it well. Why do I want a child to carry the mistakes made by the adults?"
"Shangguan, don't be too sad. It's great that you can improve your mistakes. We should do our best to repair them. Jin Jin is a big child, and she will understand." Yuan Yuxi also comforted.
"Hope!" Shangguan Yin said deflatedly: "No matter whether Jin Jin will forgive me or not, I will try my best to compensate her so that she can know that my father really loves her."
When Ou Yumin saw Shangguan Yin regretting so much, he felt sorry for Shangguan Yuejin having suffered so much. Although he had a good relationship with the Shangguan family for so many years, he also ignored Jin Jin's psychological feelings during that saddest time. He also decided to help Jin Jin get healthy.
Lin Li was walking downstairs and heard that Shangguan Yin was very disappointed with him and had no hope for his relationship with Shangguan Yuejin.
"Li Li is down!" Ou Yumin saw Lin Li walking down from the building.
"Li Li!" Shangguan Yin heard Lin Li come down and stood up from the sofa, "How is Jin Jin?"
Everyone looked at Lin Li with anticipation, hoping to hear good news.
"Uncle Shangguan, Jin Jin suffers from ptsd, also known as post-traumatic stress disorder. The most effective method for ptsd psychotherapy is cognitive behavioral therapy or repeated eye movement desensitization, and physical exposure; it can be combined with certain medications, but trauma-targeted psychotherapy rather than medicine treatment should be used first; after the trauma occurs, professionals should observe more and provide emergency assistance at any time. ptsd seldom exists alone, often accompanied by symptoms such as irritability, self-incrimination, physical discomfort, depression, substance abuse, etc. The cause of the disease must be found first. I learned about her growth background from Jin Jin, and I also want to know some of her situation from you."
"ptsd? Oh my God! What have I done over the years? I have caused my child to have such an illness?" Shangguan Yin said with a beating his chest and stamping his feet.
"Uncle Shangguan, don't worry, Jin Jin's illness will be cured. Let's be patient and have more time to accompany her." Lin Li comforted.
"Really? Can it be cured?" Shangguan Yin asked in disbelief.
"Yes, Uncle Shangguan, as long as you express your love for relish and spend time patiently with her, with your company and support, she will definitely get healthy and your relationship will be established again!" Lin Li replied.
"That's great! Shangguan, don't worry so much!" Ouyang Sheng said.
"Yes, Shangguan, you must have confidence in yourself and your children!" Yuan Yuxi's concerns were also cleared away, and he liked Lin Li even more. If it weren't for Lin Li, he really didn't know what to do.
"Okay, okay, Li Li, what do you need to know? I must know everything." Shangguan Yin said.
"I want to know all the backgrounds of Jin Jin's success."
"Okay," Shangguan Yin took a deep breath, his eyes full of pain. That memory was a pain that he could not erase. He tried his best to cover it up, but it could not be covered up after all. For the sake of his beloved daughter, he didn't mind exposing himself.
Shangguan Yin's thoughts went back many years ago: "Jinjin's mother and I were arranged marriages. At the beginning, they were just for the benefit of the group. Her group was a giant in the American financial industry, and my family expanded greatly in the cultural field. At that time, the company encountered a huge crisis, and I failed to fall in love for many years, and it was hit hard. It doesn't matter who we marry. Marriage is just an optional thing for me, and my family agreed to arrange marriage. In the process of getting along with Jinjin's mother, I found that she had many advantages and she was also very good at caring for people. Gradually, we developed feelings for each other and later we had Jinjin."
Speaking of this, Shangguan Yin paused, and a hint of happiness was revealed in his painful expression.
"I once thought that the happiest days in my life in those years. At that time, Jinjin's mother and I were kind and respectful, and Jinjin was also very well-behaved and cute. But the good times didn't last long. When Jinjin was over 5 years old, Jinjin's ex-boyfriend suddenly appeared and tried her best to recover her. Our marriage gradually became rifts. Every day we quarreled, regardless of big or small things, it would cause disputes. Later, Jinjin's mother proposed divorce and wanted to obtain Jinjin's custody, but I firmly disagreed. Jinjin's mother insisted on separating me. She asked a lawyer to deal with the matter and was preparing to appeal for divorce. About a month later, she suddenly received a notice of withdrawal. I
I realized that Jin Jin's mother had left the United States and since then it had evaporated! I tried every means to find her, but there was no news. Later, I heard some rumors saying that she was pregnant, so I left the United States. I was hit hard at that time. Jin Jin was clamoring to see her mother every day. She looked very similar to her mother. I saw Jin Jin's appearance and could not control her emotions. She had no choice but to send her to the school to study. After a few years, I calmed down a little and met my current wife. She had sex after drinking. She was pregnant and had no choice but to marry her."
Ouyang Sheng patted Shangguan Yin on the shoulder and cheered him up. He knew deeply about Shangguan Yin's pain. As his brother, he had always been by his side and listened to him revealing his bitterness in his heart, and knew how courage it would take for him to tell this passage.
Ou Yumin was shocked. Unexpectedly, Uncle Shangguan had such an experience. He had always hated him very much before and thought he was too much about Jinjin, but he misunderstood him.
Shangguan Yin continued: "After getting married, I had a second child. This seemed to have become an excuse that made me not care about Jinjin, and I ignored Jinjin. At that time, she rarely went home and often caused trouble at school. I still ignored her and asked the housekeeper to deal with these problems. For so many years, I have been unable to forgive Jinjin's mother and passed on such emotions to Jinjin." As she said that, Shangguan Yin left tears of regret.
"Uncle Shangguan, I know what to do! Don't worry!" Lin Li said calmly. In fact, her heart was already surging and she couldn't control her emotions. Isn't her parents just like Shangguan Yin? She abandoned herself for her own interests?
"Li Li, thank you!" Shangguan Yin thanked her sincerely, and everyone also cast admiring eyes on her.
"You're welcome, Uncle Shangguan, treatment requires a long-term process. In this process, family companionship and encouragement are particularly important, so first you need to restore your relationship with Jinjin. You should go up and chat with me first."
"Would you like to chat with me?" Shangguan Yin looked very happy.
"Yes, Uncle Shangguan, come with me."
"Okay!" Shangguan Yin was both excited and nervous. Thinking back, he had not communicated well with his daughter for more than ten years, and he didn't even know how to express it.
"Dongdong~" Lin Li knocked on the door: "Jinjin, I am Sister Lin Li, I'll come in!"
"Well, Sister Lin Li, come in!" Shangguan Yuejin has been doing psychological construction with herself. Since Lin Li went downstairs, she has been taking deep breaths to adjust her emotions.
"Uncle Shangguan, come in!" Lin Li opened the door and invited Shangguan Yin to enter the room with her.
Shangguan Yin tiptoed in and saw Shangguan Yuejin on the bed so pale and thin, and suddenly felt a soreness in his nose and tears flowed down unconsciously.
It was the first time Shangguan Yuejin saw her father like this. In her memory, her father has always been a strong, decisive person and never shed tears when she saw him.
"Jinjin~" Shangguan Yin's voice choked. "Dad, I'm sorry to you!"
Shangguan Yuejin's mood was very complicated. She moved her lips but couldn't speak. Since she was sent to the boarding school, she had never felt fatherly love again. Shangguan Yin's reaction made her feel particularly strange and unreal.
"Jinjin, are you willing to forgive your father?" Shangguan Yin asked cautiously.
"I...I don't know!" Shangguan Yuejin's expression was very painful and shed tears.
Shangguan Yin knew that he had hurt his child too much and had not done his duty as a father. It was too little possible for Shangguan Yuejin to forgive him immediately. "Jinjin, Dad wants to say sorry to you. Dad doesn't ask you to forgive me, but Dad hopes that you don't hurt yourself, okay?"
"Yeah, okay!" Shangguan Yuejin nodded. Sister Lin Li was right. The injured person will hurt people. The first thing that hurts is himself and his family, so you must work hard and get healthy quickly.
Hearing Shangguan Yuejin's answer, Shangguan Yin couldn't help but breathe a sigh of relief. He said happily: "That's great! Great! Jinjin, you are really brave and stronger than your father! You are the pride of your father!"
"Pride?" Shangguan Yuejin couldn't believe that she would be her father's pride. She clearly remembered the beating and scolding she was a child. At that time, her father had a ferocious face and wished she would die.
Shangguan Yin saw Shangguan Yuejin's uncertain eyes and couldn't help but sigh. It was indeed too deep to restore the relationship. Shangguan Yin calmed down and immediately made a very important decision: "Jinjin, Dad decided to transfer the group headquarters to Shanghai, and then there will be more time with you. Give Dad some time, and Dad will go back to the United States to do this tomorrow."
"Dad..." Shangguan Yuejin was really moved when she heard this. Did her father say that she would come to Shanghai to accompany her?
"Oh!" Shangguan Yin heard Shangguan Yuejin call him and quickly responded. "Good daughter, dad will definitely accompany you more in the future!"
Chapter completed!