Wait for the flowers to bloom (52)

Everyone knows that it is better for the elderly to stay in their hometown, but many things are always planned to change quickly.

In the New Year, the situation in my uncle's family and aunt's family changed. It was impossible to live with the old man all the time. My uncle's cousin first moved his job from a prefecture-level city to a provincial capital. This is of course a good thing. But then, what caused a headache is that the marriage with my girlfriend was particularly anxious. Because the girlfriend I took home had a big belly, she was already six months pregnant. No one knew what the two had had. Anyway, she brought her six-month-old daughter-in-law home and said we were going to get married.

Can my uncle and aunt say that it is not called a knot?

Get married, right? Get married!

The girl's family has a good condition, and she is still in the provincial capital. But it's just one point. The child has no biological mother. The stepmother is too young, which means that from pregnancy to having a child, and then taking care of her after giving birth, there is no one to help the woman. It is the aunt's responsibility to take care of her pregnant daughter-in-law. She can go to the confinement center for her confinement, but what should I do if I take care of her child after taking care of her? The daughter-in-law is not unemployed, but she has taken two months off because she looks pregnant and is not married yet. She has to go to work after going back. Therefore, the aunt must have to take care of the child. Even if she has money to hire a nanny, no one dares to ask a nanny to take care of the child! There is still someone at home to watch.

One end is an old man, the other end is a child. No matter who is a family, you have to take care of the children first.

This must be the whole family to enter the provincial capital. Just like Tongtong had expected a few years ago, they had to live in the provincial capital. The houses had been prepared long ago, which means they could move.

As for my aunt's family, my aunt's father-in-law was found to have stomach cancer early and had surgery. But this requires chemotherapy and has to be fucked in the hospital for a long time. Instead of traveling to and from the county and provincial capitals, it is better to move here, both of which are worry-free. My aunt's two cousins ​​have graduated early and found a job in the capital. But to be honest, it is just enough to earn some money to spend it yourself. When the old man is sick, no one needs to say that he wants to go back to the provincial capital to develop. That's it! He has to live in the provincial capital.

So, the three families had to sit together for a meeting. We sat down to discuss the care of the elderly.

What can't be adjusted is that first, you can't ask your aunt not to look at your grandson. Second, you can't ask your aunt to ignore your father-in-law.

This is like asking Lin’s mother to leave Lin Mo and Lin Yan and go back to her hometown to take care of the elderly. She herself is also confused and can’t leave the children!

My aunt meant: "We bought two houses across the door, so we lived in one house with our parents, and Xiaofeng and his couple lived in one house. The nanny was the same as before, and I still took care of my parents at home. I didn't go out, so I took care of my children by the way." But it was not very convenient for the elderly to go out.

If you marry a new wife and have children at home, the environment has actually changed once you have more people. Moreover, there are complex interpersonal relationships. The new wife is facing two layers of elderly people above. If you can’t handle it well, it depends on the face of the elderly.

My aunt said, "I don't have to go to the hospital either. When the chemotherapy is over, my time will be free. I will take care of my parents!"

But you can't leave your father-in-law alone! After the stomach surgery, it's very difficult for the elderly to take care of. The meals are soft and the temperature is right, and you have to eat five or six meals a day. It's really not that you've had a fight after watching them.

Lin's mother was thinking about how to arrange it. Lao Lin responded, "Call parents and live with us! I'm about to retire..." In fact, Lao Lin wanted to work until he was 65 years old and delayed his retirement. But in this situation, Lao Lin had to choose this plan. He was 60 years old, and he would retire immediately. "My sister lives in the front building, and my mother is temporarily moving over and living with my sister for a while. Earlier, Siye and Tongtong bought a villa in the community opposite, and they originally reserved a room for her grandparents. The renovation there was almost finished. If you move, you should only be the end of this year or the beginning of next year..." As he said that, he looked at the Fourth Master with uncertainty.

The Fourth Master nodded, "It's okay to move at the end of the year."

That is, it takes more than half a year.

Lin's mother looked at Lao Lin with gratitude. This was the most appropriate way to come up with now. She quickly said, "You are all busy with yours. I have always taken care of my parents. Let me ask my parents to live with us."

My uncle said, "Whoever has time will make a few days to come..."

When my aunt wanted to stop my uncle's words, my uncle said, "It's okay! You have been taking care of your parents all your life. First, ask me to live with my younger sister for a while, so that we can straighten things out and take them back."

Lin's mother quickly said, "Sister-in-law, I have no other intentions. It's not that you are not taking good care of it! No one has any room for reckoning with this matter. I have only taken care of my parents in the past few years. When I live together, I know what it feels like to live with my parents for the rest of my life."

Anyway, because of Lao Lin's understanding, the matter was still very successful.

When Lao Lin went back, he told the old lady, and the old lady immediately said, "That's it! You can't watch the old man pushing from this child to that child, and everyone is too frustrated! This is not possible! I didn't move to a place ten or eight miles away, so I lived upstairs in front. During the day, I came back for dinner, and after that, I took my old mother to play cards. This is done well!"

My sister-in-law must have no objection! The things are average, let’s get on.

Mother Lin was grateful to the old lady and Lao Lin. She really packed up her things for the old lady. Mother Lin stopped doing it: "We can't move, can't we do it! We three women live together, so just call Tongtong's dad and my dad to live! Anyway, it's only half a year..."

Lao Lin: “…”

If an old in-law is at home, he will definitely call his grandmother and find it inconvenient. The place here is small, not bigger than the place in the villa. It lives separately from the first and third floors and has its own independent space. If this is the old lady, it will find it inconvenient.

The younger sister-in-law quickly said, "It's time to live with me for a while. Now I don't seize the opportunity now. When the old lady lives in the villa, she looks down on my little three-bedroom apartment. While the old lady's appetite is not bad, please live with me!"

It was moved away.

The whole family went over to see her and settled down, but she felt sorry for her.

Then the eldest uncle in my hometown called, which meant that the old lady would go back to her hometown to live for more than half a year. My sister-in-law was worried! Why? Because Dalong's wife was pregnant, she would give birth in two months. The old lady couldn't do other work, so she could still take care of the child in the house. As soon as the countryside was in the beginning of the year, the field was busy. The eldest sister-in-law had to go to the field and take care of her daughter-in-law. She was worried about her marriage, and she was really anxious to ask the old lady to go back. Not to mention anything else, the clothes were put in the washing machine and came out to dry them. Can the old lady do it? Can it do it? Get up early and sweep from the front yard to the back yard, clean up the house. Can the old lady do it? Can it do it too! When the child is born, she screams in the middle of the night. Her mother-in-law, who is this age, is tired of going to the field for a day and has to take care of her grandson at night. When she can't bear it, can the old lady replace it? Can it be replaced!

Therefore, the eldest uncle sincerely hoped that the old lady would go back and live for more than half a year. When she had finished the busy season of farming, she would send the old lady back after the winter began.

But my sister-in-law was worried, "Sister-in-law, you are very busy, so take care of the children first! When Teng Teng has children in the future, the old lady who is arguing here will not be able to stop. If you want to take it, pick it up from your second brother."

When the old lady heard this, she wanted to reply, "The main reason is that your elder brother... his body is not good now. She is busy talking, and your sister-in-law doesn't care about taking care of him..."

My son in his sixties, when do you want to take a photo?!

The mother and daughter were talking, and Lin's mother came to deliver things and heard it. When she went back, she looked for Lao Lin, "Give me 20,000 yuan to my brother! Don't ask me to go to the field. If you can't do it, hire someone to save our mother's worries." The boss was about to get sick again, and the old lady had to pay for her life.

Lao Lin responded easily, transferred the money to the boss, and then called Dalong, "Hold someone to work! The temperature in the greenhouse is over 40 degrees in summer, and your father's heart can't stand it!"

Anyway, as long as the elderly or children who have a hard time and other children who live well, it is really not enough to stand by and watch! You can ignore it, but the elderly cannot ignore it. If you don’t want the elderly to worry about it, you can only worry about it yourself.

This is how my grandparents lived at home.

What do you mean? No one is troublesome, and grandpa and grandma are not very happy to come. In grandma's words, she can just take care of grandpa at home, but no one needs to take care of. Just have a nanny! Wherever grandpa goes, she will not mess around. But no one can rest assured!

If I don’t want to, I still came. I didn’t live with my younger daughter, so I’m not used to many things! Adults can adapt, but for Lin Mo and Lin Yan, it’s difficult for children to adapt. The two children are over two years old and speak quickly, and can express everything they want.

When he got up early, he didn't see his grandmother, so Lin Mo slowly searched for the room. He walked the bathroom and balcony with this room, and then took his mother's hand and pointed to the room where the old man lived: "Where?"

Lin Yan chased his brother's figure and stared at him with big eyes, as if he found that his brother had not found his grandmother, and then his mouth was slapped, "Great Grandma..." with a crying voice, he was about to cry.

"Great grandma is back soon." Lin Ma brought out the food from the kitchen, "Oh! You don't necessarily have to be clingy when you are at home, so you're not here, it's amazing."

Lin Yutong coaxed the two of them to sit in their seats, "Wait, the grandma will come back when the meal is ready."

Grandma said, "Look! I can't say it! I've troubled our boss and made the child too."

Grandpa seemed to have forgotten his two children again, and when he came over, he asked, "Whose child is this?"

I've actually asked last night.

Lao Lin helped his father-in-law out and explained tirelessly, "Dad, these are Tongtong's two children, Lin Molin Ink."

"Ah! Tongtong is all married?"

"yes!"

"Where is the son-in-law?"

The Fourth Master repeated the conversation with the old man: "Grandpa, I'm here."

"Is this Tongtong's son-in-law? She is so energetic! Well! She is very compatible."

OK! Every day when the old man praises this, the fourth master was very calm, "Eat, can you sleep well?"

"I've had a good sleep! I've been sleeping so long this afternoon." The old man sat at the dining table, "Didn't I have had lunch? Is it time to eat again?"

It's just seven o'clock in the morning!

Grandma said, "You are so confused that you can do whatever you ask you to do, don't talk."

Tongtong could only coax: "If you have children, you should eat less and more meals. We added one more meal."

Grandpa said to Grandma, "Look! Am I so confused or are you so confused?"

They all sat down, grandma came over, and the two in-laws sat next to each other. Grandma and grandma were chatting with the two old ladies, and the meal was served.

Grandpa didn't know grandma anymore, "Whose big girl is this? Have you eaten?"

"No! Brother, can you eat at your house?"

"What can I do? I can't give you rice to the door of whose house?" Then I called Tongtong, "Supply rice to the guests."

Come on! Grandma has become a guest.

Grandma felt very embarrassed, so grandma patted her hand and said, "No delay in eating or drinking, it's okay!"

"I envy my in-laws. I have a clear mind and left without any pain. I see him like this, I am really afraid that no one will recognize him in the end... If that is the case, it would be better to disappear early. He is not pitiful. We don't feel sad when we look at him."

Anyway, I took the old man here. But when I took him, you can't control the behavior of a person who forgets things at all. Lao Lin finally completed the retirement procedures and came back completely. But this father-in-law was not as easy to serve as he thought.

He accompanied the old man out, and he had originally planned to go somewhere, but the old man turned around and forgot. Then he was anxious, "Where are we going? Have you got to go back quickly?"

OK! Then go back. Lao Lin pointed to the way he came, "Go here and you will get home in a few steps."

Then when you walked to the community, the old man shook his head again, "No! This is home? This is not home! There are two big tung trees at the door of your house, have you forgotten? I remember it was very accurate. There were two old trees that were originally there and several people could not surround. Later, you two were going to get married, so they sold the tree and sold it for you to settle down... Later, I added Tongtong and named the child 'Tong'. It just so happened that the old tung tree had sprouted on the roots. Others said they wanted to water the roots and kept pouring water upwards. I said they could not water it. My granddaughter called Tongtong... She also specially pulled bricks and built a flower wall to surround the two trees. The old roots and sprouts grew so fast... I told your brother that the tree was not allowed to move. Later, when building the house, I had to go back! This spring is dry this spring, and I have to water it. I have to water it thoroughly at one time..."

Lao Lin felt very uncomfortable when he heard this, coaxing his father-in-law, "Can you go back by yourself? Don't want my mother? You have to pick me up before going back!"

Yes, yes! How could I forget this old woman?

Then I rushed home anxiously, and I was sweating all over the door. When I entered the door, I looked for my grandma, "Are you anxious? I blame me for my fault! I went out and almost forgot to pick you up. Let's go! Let's go!"

Grandma almost burst into tears, but she still coaxed him, "You know your son! My daughter finally picked us up. This time it's been a few days, so you said to go back? My daughter-in-law is over 60 years old. What's wrong with asking her child to take a break for a few days?"

ah?

Is this how?

My grandfather, who is used to listening to grandma's words and knows that it is useless to defend himself, did not argue, "Don't worry! Don't worry! I was afraid that you would wait for me just now! You are here... Then why am I anxious? Don't worry!" As he said that, he asked Lao Lin, "Which room is this? I'm so anxious to leave, I'm really tired!"

Lao Lin took it to the house again. He walked out of the living room, and grandpa retreated and said to grandma, "Don't run around by yourself. I don't know the city's construction now. What should I do if I lose you? If I go out, don't worry. I can lose it. If I come back late, don't get angry. I'm afraid that you will be in a hurry. I'll see if I'll drive you away, I'm tired!"

He said all the tears of Ma Lin's eyes and cried when he ran to the bathroom.

Lin’s mother discussed with Lao Lin, “Or, let me go back to my hometown with my parents, you can watch the child at home…”

Lao Lin also felt that this was not a solution. "If you wait for June, Tongtong will finish the exam, we will take our parents back. In September, the child is over two and a half years old and can be sent to kindergarten. You stay with your parents in your hometown, and I will pick up and drop off the child at home..."

It seems that this is the only one.

My uncle and aunt were busy getting Xiaofeng married. Because of the hasty, the wedding was not very particular, and they were all held in the provincial capital.

As soon as the wedding was over, grandpa pulled grandma and followed his uncle and aunt very well, as if he was waiting to go home. No matter how Lao Lin and Lin's mother coaxed her, grandpa insisted very much, "... I have lived there, your mother and I are still used to being at home. You can come back and have a look when you have time... Don't worry, I'm not too confused, I can take care of your mother, you don't have to worry."

My uncle could no longer bear it. He didn't even leave. He couldn't stop his tears. "Go home! I won't go anywhere, so let's go home!"
To be continued...