"Teacher Wan, it's not right. You always talk about emotional topics, but you always talk about art. Don't you think it's a bit off topic?"

"Of course, I'm a bit off. I'm only talking about what I'm a little good at. In terms of common sense in art, I have a slight comparative advantage compared to you. If I only talk about emotional psychological reactions, it's Xiao Hu's profession."

Although Xiao Hu didn't say anything, I still found another feature. "Teacher Wan, there is another feature. You talk about emotions, not about its specific impact on individuals, nor about the transmission and expression mechanisms. You seem to focus on its social attributes or social functions. Why?"

"Philosophy talks about universality, while psychology talks about speciality, which is not my strength. Isn't it better to ask Xiao Hu to give a lecture?"

At this time, Xiao Hu first shook his head, and then touched his ear inadvertently. This move exposed his inner uneasiness. Under our gaze, he said: "I am learning psychology, but I have psychological problems myself. Teacher Wan said so much, may he be trying to enlighten me indirectly?"

Teacher Wan seemed to be smiling, I understood. Xiao Hu was right and had guessed Teacher Wan’s intention long ago, but I treated Teacher Wan’s speech as an academic report.

He mainly talks about functions and sociality. In fact, it also implies persuasion and remission of Xiao Hu. He talks about the theory of needs and implies his wishes for Xiao Hu. He talks about life determining art forms, but actually implies that Xiao Hu's problem is not that he has something wrong with himself, but that the family and life he has experienced have misled him.

In fact, if you should not persuade experts in a tit-for-tat way, it will lead to an emotional confrontation between the other party. Just imagine, if Teacher Wan gave Xiao Hu condescending advice from the beginning, Xiao Hu, a smart person who is unyielding, can't talk if he refutes.

By analyzing academic topics, you can have an equal mindset and maintain an attitude towards things and not people, which is easy for others to accept. By finding psychological and emotional commonalities in conversations, you can resonate with them.

The best way to the art of education and speaking is to be based on the effect. All the methods of good results are good processes. For example, when Hu Butufu treated Fan Jin's madness, he adopted the most useful method: a slap. As a result, it was successful. This is because different people implemented different methods.

Guiguzi, this person is very mysterious and it is uncertain whether it exists. But many people claim to be his disciples. For example, the military strategists Sun Bin and Pang Juan, as well as the militants Su Qin and Zhang Yi.

He left behind a book, which later generations called "Guiguzi". I don't know if it was written by him or was a false entrusted by later generations. Anyway, there is a speaking skill in it. In my opinion, he is not only a linguist, but also a psychologist.

In the chapter on Moyi, he explained how to figure out what others want, to suit their preferences, and then achieve his own goals. How to let others expose their truest feelings?

He has done several kinds of tricks. If the other party is honest, he says that he is upright and upright, and this person will be happy, and he will expose his feelings. If the other party is greedy, he says that he is rich and property, and this person will be happy, and he will expose his feelings.

Language temptation is also related to the other party's status and situation. He gives examples. Speaking to a wise man, rely on the broadest knowledge. That is, when speaking to a smart person, you try to show your broadness of experience. Why, if you are professional and have too concentrated topics and the other party is an expert, you will be timid. Make the topic wider and the other party always has blind spots in knowledge, so he listens to your words because of curiosity.

Teacher Wan talks about emotions and talks with Xiao Hu, a smart man who studies psychology. Of course, he cannot get involved in psychology majors. So he has mixed many philosophical, social, historical, Chinese and foreign music poetry. In short, he shows a broad state and gains respect for the topic.

Talking to those who are proficient in speaking, they must strictly debate and limit the development of the topic. Once the topic is spread, two imaginary people may deviate from the topic. The reason why Teacher Wan is more extensive than Xiao Hu is that he is older, more experience, and more knowledgeable. In front of me, his broadness is not very advantageous.

Therefore, his philosophical thinking and logic became topics to discuss with me. He is a person who is very good at maintaining the ability to dominate the topic.

Similarly, speaking to those who distinguish, according to the key, that is, the key is not to bend. Speaking to the noble, speaking to the noble, explaining the general trend clearly, and speaking to the noble, the noble are the people who control the power that leads the trend, and this is exactly the topic they care about. Speaking to the rich, relying on the high. The rich do not urgently pursue material things, pursue noble spirit or pursue rank increase in society, all relying on high words. Speaking to the poor, relying on profit, and combining with the interests he cares most, it touches his heart the most. Speaking to the lowly, relying on humility. If you respect him and keep a humble look in front of him, you will follow this rare spiritual gain.

This so-called verbal technique is a psychological technique. Discover other people's psychological hobbies and follow their preferences, so that people can think along with your ideas and get the results you want. Su Qin and Zhang Yi have reached the peak of life with this skill.

Everyone has a psychological protection mechanism. If Xiao Hu doesn't take the initiative to say it, others cannot point out it. This is respect and a psychological safe distance between people.

Not only psychologically, but also physically safe distance. Someone has done a test and concluded that the safe distance between normal people is about half a meter. There are a few reasons. First, at this distance, I can feel your voice and heat, and I can also perceive changes in your emotions. Even if you want to run, I can hold your sleeves in the first reaction time. That is, as both parties to the interaction, they are close to you.

The second reason is probably far and safe. You must know that this distance will not be hurt by the other party's subconscious wave or kick. Anyone who has slept with his wife understands that when the two get too close, the wave of the elbow in a nightmare will unconsciously hurt the other party.

Of course, the reason is insufficient and there is also some speculation. Possibility exists, inevitability, and there is no real hammer.

"What else does emotion have to do with demand?" When I asked this question, I thought of my comrade-in-arms, Squad Leader Wang. The life experience and family matching theory that this person taught me is the type of emotional marriage dominated by demand. I am already very familiar with demand and economics.

"Related to instinct, the instinct I mentioned is comprehensive. Physiological evolution and psychological events, combined, will bring you the most impact event and accumulate it into your instinct. This instinct produces an intuitive emotional reaction, which determines your emotional type and intensity."

Teacher Wan’s words are a bit like psychology, and I turned my attention to Xiao Hu. He explained: “What Teacher Wan said is also recognized in psychology. What evolution has left us with the basic emotional background. For example, fear is to avoid dangerous emotional reactions, stimulate our adrenaline, increase serum concentration, and allow us to improve our ability and speed to deal with dangers in a tense state. Tense, pressure, escape, and disgust are all related to fear.”

Xiao Hu has already said it a bit professional. I asked: "Isn't there any social factors?"

Teacher Wan took the conversation: "For example, you hate a person very much. Although this person is in contact for the first time and has no malicious actions, you hate him based on your first impression. Why?"

This situation often happens. There is a kind of person who feels uncomfortable even if he has never been in contact with him at all.

"That's because there was a characteristic that was similar to those who had brought you such emotions back then. For example, the person you hated most when you were a child was particularly similar in appearance, whether his body odor or expression. The arrival of this person evoked unpleasant memories of you, and you instinctively rejected them. Similarly, some people also had such negative emotions when facing scenes. For example, phobia, intensive phobia, acrophobia, etc., may be related to past fearful experiences. Similarity reminds you to avoid them in time, otherwise, there will be danger."

Therefore, our emotions do not come out of thin air, but are caused by long-term physiological and psychological accumulation. We are bitten by snakes for a year, but are afraid of the rope for ten years.

"Well, love at first sight, was there a similar reaction?" When I asked this, I glanced at Xiao Hu with my eyes, but he had no obvious reaction.

"Of course, the other party has aroused the most beautiful imagination you have been in your heart for many years. Xiao Hu is probably more familiar with this." This matter cannot be explained in detail, Xiao Hu did not take his words.

For example, a boy with Oedipus emotions has made him attached to a certain characteristic of his mother. He will unconsciously project his hobbies to the girl he meets, either looking, odor, smile or voice. When this happens, he falls in love and steals the ringtone of your emotions with lightning speed.

The speed of emotional reactions is so fast that you cannot even notice them yourself. This is a characteristic of intuition and can dominate your behavior and judgment. There is a psychological rule. When a group of men and women are active together and everyone laughs happily over something, you will first look at the person you like the most immediately and unconsciously.

When you are most relaxed and excited, you want to see the most beautiful side of the other person.

Because love has the characteristics of intuition, it directly faces physiological and psychological impulses, and has both spiritual and physical harvests, so its strength is the most intense. The sixth Dalai Lama, as a saint and a monk, cannot resist it. "It is rare to have both Dharma in the world, and I will not let you down."

The most important thing about young people’s beliefs is love.

After Xiao Hu's faith was destroyed, he was eager to find a new faith to fill his heart. This kind of emotion has a determination to live to death, so the music he listened to was very appropriate: the sacred war.

War requires the determination to die, and sacredness is to give meaning to death. The most common activity of giving meaning to death is religion.

In history, many people became monks because of their huge setbacks in their relationship. But how reasonable is this kind of behavior of seeking medical treatment in a hurry? Is it easier to achieve success if you enter Buddhism without mercy?

I asked: "Let's go back to the big question. Do we have to minimize its impact when emotions are so interfering with reason?"

"Why are you so bold? You dare to deny the positive significance of your relationship?" Although Teacher Zhuang's voice was not loud at this time and did not slap the table, it was obvious that he was quite serious.

"How many years have human reason developed? From the perspective of historical tests, in the longest evolutionary history, emotion is the ideology that plays a major role. If there is no basic emotion, let alone human society will not have a close connection, even if human survival, it will have to be questioned. How can we deny it at will?"

I was surprised by this. I looked at Xiao Hu for a moment, and he shook his head, indicating that he didn't understand it very much. A philosophy teacher who lives with logic and rationality actually vigorously advocated the role of emotions, making him look like an artist.

However, what he said makes sense. After all, by the length of time, emotions are far more than reason. And in our conscious judgment and daily tendencies, most decisions are made under the influence of emotions.

Even the rationality of ordinary people is greatly influenced by emotions. For example, many of us only believe in what we are willing to believe. If we are willing, this word has obvious emotional characteristics.

Not to mention that the long-term accumulation of instinct to seek benefits and avoid harm during human evolution has formed our fixed emotional reaction. In social unity and interaction, emotions are also the best starting point and end point.

Here, I can see that the weakness of Team Leader Wang’s family matching theory is that he does not pay attention to the important role of emotions. When a man and a woman walk together, most of the initial causes are related to emotions. When a couple reaches the last stage of their lives and take everything lightly, what remains are the habitual emotions like relatives and benefactors accumulated over a long period of time.

"Although sometimes emotions interfere with our rational judgment, the development of reason is obviously immature. It is only about two or three thousand years since the emergence of this word. From ancient Greece to our Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period to the Buddha's era, whether it is rational or wisdom, it officially separates from ideology and forms a framework for thinking. What accumulated in less than one percent of the time and negates the content accumulated in more than ninety-nine percent is itself a manifestation of overconfidence."

Although Teacher Wan’s statement makes sense, I don’t know how he moved from a rational philosophy professor to an emotional advocate. Is it that the new trend of philosophy today is the value of studying emotions?

"Teacher Wan, I won't calm down anymore." Xiao Hu reminded.

"The psychologist is right. I am also inspired by basic emotions and not very calm. The key is to be stimulated. Today, there is a trend that denies the value of liberal arts students. The problem is that without modern logic and philosophy, science lacks a starting point. I am angry with the nourishment of logic and philosophy and denying the value of liberal arts."

I said: "Maybe you're confused. Philosophy is philosophy, which is different from the concept of liberal arts students."

"Wrong!" The one who spoke this time was Xiao Hu. "We are also victims. When we were divided into liberal arts in high school, Teacher Wan and I studied liberal arts. Although the research methods of psychology rely entirely on scientific falsification methods, and although the derivation of philosophy relies on rigorous scientific logic, people do not like it. They bully us with powerful material power, treat us as pseudoscience and things that should be abandoned. This has some ability and looks down on our neighbors, and it should not be."

They were obviously dominated by emotions, so I calmed down. Because I didn’t admit that I was a liberal arts student at all, because I didn’t admit that I had attended a regular university and studied a regular major. People who don’t have majors are not different from liberal arts and science. However, to be so angry that such a smart and rational person shows that the custom of looking down on liberal arts students has hurt so many innocent people.

"I was not interested in art, but the academic rumors in society pushed me to artists and to the direction of studying emotions. As a result, after research, I found that emotions are too effective. Most of the things in our daily lives are dominated by emotions. Such important things are despised to such a degree, which is seriously unreasonable."

Yes, in our daily lives, the most conscious judgments and impulses are all dominated by emotions. For example, what we eat, what we wear, what we like, what makes us feel comfortable and happy, and what determines the value and quality of our life, are mostly related to emotions. How can we ignore it?

It is the three of us, at least Xiao Hu and I, the reason why we study Buddhism is that our emotions are the first driving force. Needless to say, Xiao Hu’s affairs are obvious. I was also unable to struggle with love, family and desire, and then I thought of a breakthrough.

The most direct manifestation of religious emotions is Yanzi. What is a person who is so passionate and active that allows her to ignore family and love, ignore her favorite life, and be immersed in the boring and peaceful life of chanting Buddha's name? This is a huge secret, and I want to figure it out.

"Not only for individuals, but also for the common emotions of the country, nation, the world, society, and have played a huge role. They have changed and will continue to change history, which has been repeatedly proved. Even during the War of Resistance in China, those great musical works united a pile of loose Chinese people, inspired the sacrifices of millions of soldiers, and pulled us out of the danger of national destruction. Do you have no memory?"

I said: "On the contrary, many of the Western scholars who thought they were rational at that time stood on Wang Jingwei's side. Are they the ability to make rational judgments and many immature things?"

"Maybe, if we talk about it, they were still because of emotions. At the beginning, Wang Jingwei probably just disgusted with Chiang Kai-shek and used any means. When the Japanese army came, fear dominated his judgment, so he became a sinner. Although fear and resentment were very negative, they also belonged to emotions."

This is a new term, interesting. Sometimes, if you think about it for a long time, you can't get many meaningful new ideas. But when you debate and talk with others, you can often generate a lot of sparks. Perhaps, some people call it the result of a collision of thoughts. This is like a hybridization in biology, and sometimes, it will lead to unexpected results.

"In fact, reason has boundaries, while the imagination of the human brain has no boundaries. The huge gaps between these two fill emotions." Teacher Wan is performing more and more powerfully. "If we use rational analysis from the most basic state of life, at most it will reach death. This result is very sad. After death, everything will be zero. Then, can we only seek happiness in time when we are alive? Madly enjoying timely will only leave people with more pain. Therefore, the best entrance to emotional improvement is still emotions."

Xiao Hu also nodded: "This is probably a match between the reason and the result."

"Maybe. Since death is inevitable and you can enjoy it in time and not get good results, what should you do? The thinking of the inverse method cannot find a way out, so we expand the extension. Expand the meaning of life, extend it until after death, and give life meaning. This is the value. Giving death meaning is what religion is best at. Perhaps, you have studied the history of science and have many negative impressions of the role of religion in history, saying that it kills science and fools the people. But you have not seen its emotional enthusiasm."

"Did you find a home for the soul?" I asked, after all, this was Einstein's answer in the legend.

"It is not only but also extending the value of life. If you only have sorrow in the face of death, then is there only pain when you are alive? This is worse than worrying about the sky. After all, the sky falls is just an imagination, and it is reality that people will die. We find reasons for happiness for this inevitable tragedy and find the value of life, which enriches the connotation and expands the extension. Sacred people and things that contribute to mankind and make them immortal. In fact, this religious emotion inspires people to dedicate and sacrifice is of great positive significance to social development."

I remembered some words, such as the qi running through the rainbow, the shocking world and the ghosts and gods, which are emotional motivations that expand the effect. For example, the eternal life in the fire, the eternal life and other words that extend the time of life.

These beliefs always inspire human emotions and allow the entire society to develop in a positive direction.

The way of Confucius and Mencius talks about benevolence. They were the inventors of early rationality and the earliest thinkers of Chinese civilization. However, their explanation of benevolence actually starts from emotions: everyone has an unbearable heart.

Therefore, Confucius attached great importance to things that affect emotions, such as poetry and music. Attention to human feelings is also reflected in his social design structure, such as being close to his family first and then being loyal to the country.

Mencius was the most eloquent and wise man. When he persuaded the king to implement benevolent government, he also started with emotions. These examples have been filled with classics of Chinese studies and do not need to be explained. There are too many, which affect emotions, affect society, affect the entire country and nation.

I had a big question: "In Buddhism, we humans are classified as sentient beings. Does the emotional factor also occupy a high position in Buddhism?"

"Of course, have you noticed that what is the most fundamental characteristic of the Bodhisattva?" Teacher Wan was originally asking me, but the answer was Xiao Hu.

“Compassion is also a kind of emotion.”
Chapter completed!