When she saw us, her smiling face turned into astonishment, "Huh? Mayor Feng, when did you go out?"

Just now, she had been busy in the kitchen, so she didn't notice when we went out. That's why she was so surprised. I smiled and said, "I just went out to do some small things. Mr.

Are you back?"

She nodded, "I just entered the house."

At this time, I had already seen Mr. Liu, and sitting opposite him was a fat old man. I hurriedly said to Xiao Sui: "Go and help the old man."

Then I walked directly towards Mr. Liu. When I was about to say hello to Mr. Liu, I suddenly saw that the tea cup I had just drank from was still there. I immediately understood that the old man and I had left just now.

I ignored this little thing when I was there. But this little thing may have exposed the fact that I have been here.

Mr. An is an old revolutionary. Although he has a bad temper, he must have experienced so many ups and downs. And since he has such a weird temper, he must have the qualifications to have a weird temper. People are often like this, the more capable they are.

The more arrogant the person is.

So, at this moment, I immediately changed my mind. So I said loudly to the old man: "Old man, you are really there. Did you really invite Mr. An here?"

The old man turned sideways and looked at me while I was talking, and a look of astonishment suddenly appeared on his face. I ignored him, but went directly to the old man opposite him. I found that his face was rosy.

, looking energetic, thinking that he was taking good care of himself. Then he bowed to him, "Are you An Lao? Hello, my name is Feng Xiao, and I am now the acting mayor of Shangjiang City. Today

I'm really happy to have the honor of meeting you."

The old man glanced at me, with a faint smile on his face, and then pointed to the seat next to him, "Sit down. Is this the cup you just drank from?"

I nodded and smiled: "Yes." Then I went to sit down at that seat, and then said to him apologetically: "Mr. An, I should have come to visit you long ago..."

Before I finished speaking, he immediately laughed "haha" and said: "Mayor Feng, how can I, An, dare to be so? I have already retired. I am very disgusting. I just don't cause any trouble to you."

, how dare I bother you, the mayor, to visit me?"

I immediately said seriously: "Mr. An, please don't say that. Let me tell you the truth. In fact, I know that you were also told by Chairman Ma who has been transferred from our city recently. This is actually true.

Blame it on me, because I haven't cared enough about retired veteran comrades. Also, I should have gone directly to your home, but I heard that you were very dignified, and I felt a little scared. Isn't that right? I just had to work

Mr. Liu's grand chariot has gone to invite you. Mr. An, it is true that I did not do well, and I will apologize to you now: I'm sorry."

I looked at me with a strange look, "Mayor Feng, you don't look like someone in the officialdom?"

I knew what he was referring to. He was actually saying that I was too straightforward and told the truth. I smiled and said: "Mr. An, anyway, there is only one rule I follow, and that is, 'Be an official before being a human being.

'.If a person can't do well as a human being, he won't be able to do well as an official. Mr. An, don't you think so?"

But he said lightly: "This is just a cliché. 'Be an official before being a person', hehe! This is easy to say, but not so easy to do. But I am very interested in your question.

If you are interested, let me ask you, what kind of way do you think you should adhere to as a human being?"

It was obvious that he was testing me. I immediately smiled bitterly in my heart: In Shangjiang City, I usually test other people, but I didn’t expect that I would also be tested today.

I thought for a while and then said: "Mr. An, I think the first thing I want to say is, regarding the saying 'Be an official before being a person', this sentence is indeed a cliché, but I think there are not a few people who do it.

. Judging from the current situation, people in this officialdom should have done a lot, but everyone has different standards for being a human being. Nowadays, in this society, there is a trend of egoism that looks forward in everything, so

People revolve around such a kind of values ​​to do good for themselves. Of course, this is only one aspect, a part. In fact, our current social situation is worthy of careful consideration by each of us. Our country is in a stage of development. After nearly a hundred years of development,

Capitalist countries that have developed but still lag behind the West. Although we hold high the banner of vast land and abundant resources and shout the slogan of reform and opening up, the cruel reality tells us: we should start from the essence and solve the problem from the essence. We need to let everyone

The Chinese people understand what is the right way to be a human being and how to make our country more prosperous and stronger.

Nearly a thousand years ago, our ancestors began to explore ways to be a human being. They were all our guides and set the precedent for us to be a human being. Among them, Confucius and Laozi had a profound influence. In Confucius' view, the way to be a human being is to teach people to be human.

The way to deal with things, the ancient way of a good ruler is to "reach the extreme of emptiness and be calm", "the best is like a valley, and a hundred is like a humiliation". In short, "those who are close to vermillion are red and those who are close to ink are black". As far as Laozi is concerned,

Lao Tzu is an ancient preacher. The Tao Te Ching, known as the "King of All Classics", is a reflection on some fundamental issues in society. Although it has passed thousands of years, it is still not out of date. Be kind and don't take kindness for granted.

If you don't do it, don't do it because it's a small evil. You must be responsible for being a person. You can't be promiscuous when you're rich, and you can't move when you're poor. You need to be honest. Integrity is the foundation of a person. You need to respect yourself, be strict with yourself, be lenient to others, and be content.

, He who wants to be content will always be happy.”

Mr. Liu looked at me in surprise, "I didn't expect Xiao Feng to have studied Chinese culture?"

Mr. An looked at Mr. Liu in surprise. I guess he was surprised that the old man called me "Xiao Feng". I immediately said humbly: "Old man, I can't say that my research is good, but I have read some books in this field.

"

An Lao said: "You continue to talk."

In fact, I deliberately used the most representative things in Chinese culture to answer An Lao's question. Mr. Liu studied literature and history, and An Lao and he are old friends, so he must have done some research in this area.

Therefore, I think only this kind of thing can impress him.

Immediately, I pondered for a moment and then continued: "In Chapter 4 of the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu said, 'The Tao rushes, but when you use it, it may not be full. The Yuanxi is like the origin of all things, and it is full of misunderstandings.

"With its light, with its dust; Chen Xi may exist. I don't know whose son is the ancestor of Xiang Di". In this chapter, Laozi explains that the creation of all things has no beginning, and the creation has no beginning.

Mind, as well as the cause of the social ideal state of "if you don't do it, you won't be cured", it is explained in both positive and negative ways that the way is to comply with the laws of nature, imitate nature, and behave in a responsible and pragmatic manner. Mao Zedong's way of being a human being must be:

Magnificent and magnanimous, principled, showing leadership style, and caring and warm in every aspect, which makes people moved and admired. Whether with superiors or the masses, political opponents or allies, or in personal or organizational names, all interactions with others are clear and strict.

Compassion helps others. Zeng Guofan's way of being a man is: use copper as a mirror to correct your clothes; use ancient times as a mirror to know the rise and fall; use people as a mirror to know gains and losses. Of course, as far as Zeng Guofan's entire ideological and cultural system is concerned, its

The fundamental purpose is to 'defend morality', that is, to serve the feudal class. But no matter what, we have introduced its valuable spirit into our modern political, economic and cultural trend, and introduced its reasonable ethics and family ideas into modern families and interpersonal relationships.

, this is still of great practical significance. It is especially worth mentioning that if we taste it carefully, it is not difficult to find that the essence of Zeng Guofan’s cultural thoughts is more important for promoting social and political stability, economic development, interpersonal harmony, and thus building a harmonious society.

Realistic utility. However, what is the current development trend of human behavior? How should we view this trend? I believe that human beings should be virtuous people. When dealing with personal and social issues, we must first understand that nationalism is not relying on others.

Doctrine, we must consciously have a mission and have an obligation to fulfill it. Based on this concept, we are the true democracy. It is a wrong attitude to only uphold our own rights and ignore the rights of others. The so-called

Spirituality is beneficial, that is, it expresses social moral concepts. Human life is based on morality, oneself and others. Such a comprehensive development will inevitably create a stable and peaceful society. Secondly, recognizing oneself is the first step in being a human being.

, I believe that you can unleash your potential if you recognize yourself clearly. Otherwise, if you imitate others, you will only end up with a broken reputation. We must constantly push ourselves to do our best even if we are empty. And our own potential

When the power merges into the possession of a spirit, it oppresses the other party, allowing others to respond accordingly. It is the connection between one's own strength and the other party. Thirdly, mutual communication is the lubricant of human beings. I believe that smart people know how to appreciate what others do,

Instead of criticizing others, the performance of subordinates should be evaluated with at least four points for shortcomings and six points for advantages. This is a good commander who knows how to appreciate his subordinates. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. It is difficult to find a perfect person, and he will not

Everyone is good at one thing. Therefore, when a leader observes his subordinates, he will find that there are all kinds of people with all kinds of advantages and disadvantages. Not only bosses, but each of us should be like this. We all need to cultivate a tolerant mind and tolerate each other.

Be understanding and don't be stubborn. If everyone does this, everyone will be able to live happily and harmoniously, and their emotions with others will deepen. Everyone can fully develop, unleash their potential, and make their career and life more satisfying.

Ruyi. Fourth, the golden mean is actually a life strategy. I believe that advocating the golden mean means advocating treating others with sincerity, tolerance, and courtesy, without being partial to what is believed, nor making compromises or abandoning principles.

We need to put social interests first and observe and deal with problems comprehensively and far-sightedly. If we can understand the essence of the saying "Know yourself and know the enemy, even if you are your enemy, you are also your teacher". If we understand both the other party and ourselves, then perhaps we will be able to deal with it.

We must have a correct understanding and evaluation of the value of our existence. Finally, challenging suffering is the driving force of life. Even if you are comfortable and peaceful in life, you must be alert, because disaster may be approaching at any time. At work, you must also be down-to-earth and concentrate.

And we must have clear goals and objectives, as well as a strong desire to win and succeed. This is the basic way we are human beings. Only by achieving these can we reach the highest state of human beings."

Mr. An kept nodding his head, and then asked me: "I heard that you are studying medicine?"

I was a little stunned because I didn't expect him to ask such a question out of the blue. I nodded, "Yes."

But I immediately understood why he asked me that, because he then asked me again: "Then where did you learn the knowledge just now?"

I replied: "The main thing is to read the book yourself and then understand it yourself."

He nodded, "That's right. Then tell me, how can we reach the highest level as a human being?"

I replied: "It is very difficult for a person to achieve the highest state of being a human being, but we should pursue that state, not only for ourselves to pursue that state, but also to allow more people to pursue the highest state of being a human being.

Realm. In the final analysis, this is to be 'people-oriented', so that all social strata can live in harmony and achieve social stability and a systematic system. In ancient times, what was mainly advocated was Confucius's way of being a human being, and the ideal of Confucius' human science.

That is: the personality of a gentleman is the direction for the moral cultivation of scholars. For most people in society, it has the nature of isolation. What should a person, an ordinary person living in an average daily life, be like?

What about a person? This is the main connotation of Confucius’ way of being a human being. Among the traditional interpersonal relationships, the most important aspects include husband and wife, father and son, elders and children, friends, and monarchs and ministers. Regarding the handling of these five principle relationships, Mencius called them

Human relations and the way of humanity. He said: If a person has a way, if he is well fed, warmly clothed, sheltered and taught, he will be close to the beasts. The sage is worried about this and makes him a master and disciple, teaching human relations. Father and son are related, monarch and minister are polite, and husband and wife are different.

, elders and children are in order, and friends have trust. This is what later generations of Confucians call human relations. It can be seen that the so-called human relations or moral principles of Confucianism are actually the natural way of human beings that unfolds in specific interpersonal relationships. Confucius

He also advocated the need for three ways of being a human being: first, the way of filial piety and brotherhood, second, the way of friends knowing, and third, the way of loyalty to the emperor. In summary, although Confucius’ way of being a person mainly focuses on three aspects: family relationship, friend relationship and relationship between monarch and minister, it also involves

It is the backbone of traditional patriarchal social relations and is a norm of feudal ethics. Although Confucius's way of being a human being has its historical limitations, many of its ideas still have positive significance and still have modern value. Again, especially

It should be pointed out that although it was internally corrupted by the feudal politics of later generations, which caused many positive thoughts to be obscured and distorted, I believe that through modern interpretation, these thoughts can become important ideological resources that are trusted by modern times. They are related to Confucius’ thoughts.

The different modern thoughts are the power of life and death. Life is originally "there", "coming" and "going". The pain a person feels is due to the fact that everything he owns is just a pile of dirt. This expectation

Having lingering desires is the essence of this piece of soil, so all sorrow and pain are born from a person's desires. Therefore, the way we behave is to reduce our desires, thereby reducing our own pain. In addition,

The great significance of being a human being is that each of us can take responsibility for ourselves. As long as each of us can be ourselves, then our world, our society, and our world will become a beautiful place.

A paradise of harmony and happiness. In addition, we should adopt the law of 'moderateness' in social life. We should not only oppose the old-fashioned and stubborn old ideas, but also oppose the unhealthy trend of following the trend and blindly pursuing fashion. We should pursue

and the best ideal state of affairs that adapts to the development trend of the times and is appropriate. This is particularly important for the contemporary world. When Confucianism moves human ethics, it specifically falls within the norms of etiquette. It is true that from a common sense, it is necessary to follow etiquette.

Practicality is a virtue, but it would be ridiculous to regard etiquette as an eternal dogma, because etiquette is constantly changing with the development of the times. In the way of being a human being, we must imitate the great people who know etiquette, know, know responsibility, and know filial piety.

They serve as role models to shape themselves, "Have you been unfaithful in your plans, have you not believed in your friends?", "I have to examine myself three times every day" to reach the highest level of human conduct. On the contrary, we should resolutely abandon

Those who are unfaithful and unfilial should be ashamed of them. Eliminate evil and promote good, and be loyal, righteous, and filial..."

While I was talking, I had been secretly observing Mr. An and Mr. An. The old man kept nodding, but Mr. An seemed to be a little lost. When I said this, he suddenly reacted and said immediately:

"Well, that makes sense. You continue."

In fact, I got a little excited when I spoke, and then continued: "I believe that the highest state of being a human being is to truly achieve the word 'loyalty and forgiveness'. When you achieve it, you will become a benevolent person. But what is loyalty and forgiveness?"

What? According to the interpretation of the Analects of Confucius, loyalty means establishing oneself in order to establish others, and trying to achieve others in order to achieve others; forgiveness means not doing to others what you don’t want others to do to you. The so-called loyalty means not only considering yourself when things happen, but also putting yourself in others’ shoes and thoughts.

Help others. The so-called forgiveness is to adopt a tolerant attitude towards others. Don't force others to do things you don't want to do, and don't force others to do things you don't want to get. A cultivated person and an uneducated person
To be continued...