Chapter 98 The difference between mother-in-law and mother (3)
Just after giving birth, Fan Yunxuan and Wang Jiayi had to recuperate in the hospital for a few days. They were transferred from the same delivery room to the same ward.
During these few days of recuperation, their close relatives and friends took turns visiting and taking care of them.
Wang Jiayi's child is carefully taken care of by nurses in the nursery. When it needs milk, the nurse will hold the child to Wang Jiayi for breastfeeding. Wang Jiayi's milk is very good and abundant.
Fan Yunxuan's child is still in the nursery and needs special care from medical staff. Fan Yunxuan has no milk, but Wang Jiayi has plenty of milk. Therefore, when Fan Yunxuan's child needs to breastfeed, the nurse
She would bring him over and let Wang Jiayi feed him. Wang Jiayi recognized Fan Yunxuan’s child as her godson. Of course, she didn’t let her daughter recognize Fan Yunxuan as her godmother. Fan Yunxuan didn’t even have her own child.
Like, how could she like other people's children? Wang Jiayi knew her, she just didn't like children, so when Fan Yunxuan didn't show closeness to her daughter, she didn't find fault. Fan Yunxuan watched
His own son always has a cold face. It would be too fake to show intimacy to other people's daughters. Fan Yunxuan has always been straightforward and will not perform such false performances.
Jiajun's mother was always resentful towards Fan Yunxuan, but now that the child was born, she was not affectionate to her child at all, and she had no milk, so she asked someone else to feed her. Her resentment increased a lot. Unexpectedly,
She was willing to see her, and she spent most of the time outside the nursery, watching over her grandson. She was particularly worried about what would happen to her premature grandson.
What an accident. Guo Jiajun has already asked the doctor. Thirty-seven weeks is considered a full term. Although the child is small, it is not premature. Jiajun's mother could not understand his explanation and asked: "She is not selfish."
Can you fall while running to the hospital? If you don't fall, can the child be born early? Which full-term child would be so small? What if it is not premature birth?"
Fan Yunxuan's fall caused her son to be born prematurely. Guo Jiajun also complained about her in his heart. If the child had any accident, it would be difficult for him to forgive Yunxuan. The child is so weak because Yunxuan took food during pregnancy.
Fortunately, apart from being thin, no other abnormality was found in the child. The most important thing now is to take good care of the child. There is no point in complaining and blaming Yunxuan. He can only do some enlightenment work for his mother.
Yunxuan's mother also cares about her grandson. After spending time with her daughter, she will come to see her grandson. Looking at her grandson in the glass dome, she feels very distressed. When Jiajun's mother sees her, her heart is filled with anger. Where is the barrister?
She actually raised such an uneducated daughter! Her dissatisfaction is all written on her face, Yun
Of course Xuan's mother can see it. She doesn't care about her biological mother's attitude towards her. After all, she doesn't have much contact with her, but she cares about her biological mother's attitude toward her daughter. Now is her daughter's confinement period. No matter what, she can't treat her daughter like that.
What an attitude! She is also dissatisfied with her biological mother.
Both mothers' hearts are filled with "gunpowder". As long as there is a little "spark", it will "explode".
From the bottom of her heart, Jiajun's mother was not willing to conflict with Yunxuan's mother. After all, they were in-laws, and it would not be good for anyone to break up. But there were some things that she really didn't want to say, so she said: "Sheng
It is a daughter-in-law’s duty to feed her children and raise her children. I really don’t understand why some wives are not even willing to fulfill this duty?”
Yunxuan's mother shot back: "It's unduty in the eyes of my mother-in-law. Nothing is unduty in front of my mother."
Jiajun's mother asked: "What do you mean by this? Just because she is her daughter, whatever she does is right? Can a lawyer be so unprincipled?"
Yunxuan's mother said: "There are no lawyers here, only mothers. From a mother's point of view, I think there is nothing wrong with this. A daughter-in-law who talks back to her mother-in-law is not responsible; a daughter-in-law who talks back to her mother is called cute.
. If you don’t give fruit to your mother-in-law first, that’s not your duty. A mother will take the initiative to cut fruit for her daughter to eat. This is a mother-in-law’s duty.
A natural expression of love. When it's meal time, the mother asks her daughter to eat, but she doesn't eat, so the mother will send the meal to her room; the mother-in-law asks the daughter-in-law to eat, but the daughter-in-law doesn't eat. When she's hungry, she can only rummage in the refrigerator.
Look for leftovers. In her parents’ house, if she’s hungry at night, she can ask her mother to cook her midnight snacks; in her husband’s house, she has to go there by herself.
When cooking supper in the kitchen, you have to be very gentle. If you wake up your mother-in-law, you will not be able to eat the supper and you will be very angry. When my mother is busy, she turns a blind eye and will not say anything as a mother; when my mother-in-law is busy,
, even if she is unwilling, the daughter-in-law must help, otherwise her mother-in-law will nag her for several days.
You have to be quiet. When you get up late in the morning, your mother will say, why didn’t you sleep a little longer when you went to bed so late last night? If it were a different mother-in-law, not only would she think that her daughter-in-law is too lazy, but she might also go around to promote her daughter-in-law’s delicious food and lazy cooking. The same thing
Son, the mentality of mother and mother-in-law are completely different, and this has nothing to do with duty or not."
Jiajun's mother originally thought that Yunxuan's mother would be blamed for Yunxuan's failure to give birth to a healthy child, but she didn't expect that she would be so confident and say such a big story, which would make her even more angry.
Where to put it?
Jiajun's mother said: "My mother-in-law and my daughter-in-law have not known each other or understood each other for more than 20 years. If we measure the mother-in-law according to the mother's standards, no mother-in-law is qualified. Then again, no mother-in-law is qualified.
Well, if a daughter-in-law can care about her mother-in-law as if she were her own mother, can the mother-in-law not change her heart for her heart?"
Junxuan's mother said: "Expecting your daughter-in-law to be like your daughter is not a problem in itself. But once this expectation is disappointed, problems will arise, and the daughter-in-law will complain, which will make the daughter-in-law uneasy."
Jiajun's mother said: "My mother-in-law complained because my daughter-in-law was not sincere."
Yunxuan's mother said: "As the old saying goes, a fence is not a wall, and a mother-in-law is not a mother. No matter how much you quarrel or make trouble with your own mother, the mother will not really take it seriously and treat her daughter as well as always. The mother-in-law will not
It’s the same, talk about etiquette everywhere, always
You have to be careful at all times, because if you don't have the right sense of proportion, it will lead to a war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, this is not a question of sincerity, but a question of whether there is a blood relationship. Why should you have such high expectations when you know that there is no basis for family ties connected by blood?
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Jiajun's mother said: "High expectations? In today's society, a mother-in-law can barely support her daughter-in-law as a queen, so how can she dare to have too high expectations? Even if you don't want to give birth to a child, it's not even close.
Kowtow to her."
Junxuan's mother said with a smile but not a smile: "Junxuan, this child has many shortcomings, but she is still reasonable. Just be afraid, because some people have short tempers and don't have the patience. Communication turns into accusations, and communication turns into complaints.
, before we could understand each other, there was another conflict."
Jiajun’s mother understood why people must hire a lawyer when filing a lawsuit. It’s because a lawyer’s mouth can confuse right and wrong, and unreasonable things will become very reasonable when a lawyer comes to them. With my shallow knowledge, I am destined to be unable to explain it.
The well-known barrister said this. What she questioned was that Yunxuan was unwilling to give birth to a child, feed the child, and raise the child, but her mother-in-law talked to her about the issue of blood and family ties. The mother-in-law is not the mother's problem.
The issue of tolerance is simply a chicken-and-duck discussion. It turns out that the four words "unruly" can not only be used to describe unqualified and unruly people, but also can be used to describe lawyers. Lawyers are far more unreasonable than unreasonable people.
It's even more helpless than the unruly people. Jiajun's mother can't talk to her, and she can't do things like scolding, so she can only hold it in secretly. Subconsciously, she has accounted for this useless account.
On Fan Yunxuan's head.
Yunxuan's mother really didn't save face for her biological mother today. Her dissatisfaction with her biological mother was because of her unwelcome attitude towards her daughter. Of course she knew that the reason why her biological mother was so unwelcome to her daughter was because her daughter did not want to have children. In the eyes of her biological mother, doing
Women must have children, otherwise they are unqualified women. But in my opinion, as a woman, she has the right to choose whether to have children or not, but this right does not
It exists independently, and it is indeed necessary to consider the attitude of the mother-in-law's family. Now that the daughter has made a concession and given birth to a child, then, as the mother-in-law, she should consider how to communicate well with her daughter so that the daughter is willing to feed the child instead of
Complaining and blaming blindly. Therefore, the focus of her conversation was on communicating, not blaming, communicating, not complaining. She hoped that her mother-in-law could understand what she meant.
After several days of observation, the doctor confirmed that her grandson was in good health and could be discharged from the hospital normally. Jiajun's mother felt a little calmer.
Fan Yunxuan and Wang Jiayi's families went through the discharge procedures at the same time, and were discharged from the hospital with their children at the same time. When they returned to their respective homes, the focus of their lives shifted entirely to their children.
The two children have not yet been named. Both families call the children Baobao, baby.
The babies of Guo Jiajun and Fan Yunxuan are relatively thin, with arms like onions and legs like lotus roots. Perhaps because the skin is too thin and tender, his "egg stick" with the function of carrying on the family line is almost pink, but the size is extremely large.
This convinced Guo Jiajun that no matter how thin the child is now, he will definitely be a healthy child in the future.
A strong young man. Whenever he had free time, he would stare at his baby with a look of ecstasy that Fan Yunxuan had never seen before when she was in love with him. Jiajun's mother was more like a heart that couldn't live without the sun.
Planet, I wish I could revolve around my grandson twenty-four hours a day, with that loving expression as if he were Guanyin
Possessed by the Bodhisattva. Especially when the children looked at them curiously with big round eyes like grapes, Guo Jiajun and Jiajun’s mother’s hearts melted. What is the most precious thing in the world? Of course it is life. Faced with this
When he was a weak little life, Guo Jiajun felt that his life was far inferior to that of his son.
Life is precious, and nothing in the world is more precious than his son. He must do his best to protect this fragile little life that is connected to his own blood. Perhaps this is the nature of his father. Father and son are connected, and only his own
Chapter completed!