Fan Yunxuan said: "If a marriage has reached the point where children are needed to bond the relationship, it means that the marriage is dead and there is no need to continue to maintain it."

Jiajun's mother said: "Many things have a tripod underneath. Do you know why a tripod is used?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "For stability."

Jiajun's mother said: "Yes, it is said in the book that a couple plus children is like a tripod. This kind of family is the most stable. Without children, there is one less support point. Can it be stable?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Even if a DINK family is unstable, it can still form a balance in dynamics. Just like a bicycle, riding two wheels is faster and more stable than three wheels."

Jiajun's mother said: "Junxuan, you can't be so messy!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "I am justified in this. I do not deny that after having a child, when something happens, the couple will first consider the child..."

Jiajun's mother quickly grabbed the conversation and controlled the topic, "That's right! Once you have a child, the family will not fall apart easily. In order to raise a good child together, the couple will definitely think about the same thing and work hard for the same thing.

This makes such a family stronger than a wall plastered with cement."

Fan Yunxuan said: "In a DINK family, there are no children to distract the emotions. The emotions and energy should be poured into each other as much as possible, which will make them more stable."

Jiajun's mother asked: "What if there is a crack? Once there is a crack, without the children to support it, won't the wall collapse and the house collapse?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "A family must be run by the couple, not by children."

Jiajun's mother said: "Without children, the two of them will lack the sense of responsibility to build a family together."

Fan Yunxuan said: "Without children, the couple will take the initiative to adjust themselves and pay more attention to each other mentally and materially, so that both parties feel satisfied. This is called 'dynamic balance'. With children,

On the contrary, it will reduce this dynamic beauty."

Jiajun’s mother said: “No matter how beautiful the action is, there are still times when there will be conflicts!”

Fan Yunxuan said: "The noise itself is part of the dynamic beauty."

Jiajun's mother said: "If you don't have children, you have to talk about 'divorce' when there is a conflict. Is this called 'dynamic beauty'? It's called only dynamic but no beauty! It's different with children. It doesn't work."

Say the word 'divorce' easily, so that it can be stable, and only when it is stable can it be beautiful."

Fan Yunxuan said: "Children are the crystallization of love, not a life-saving straw to maintain a dead marriage; children should be free, happy and carefree, and should not be weights for emotional exchanges or tools to be exploited."

Jiajun's mother looked unconvinced and said, "Why is the divorce rate so high now? Isn't it because we don't have children?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "It is too sad to regard children as the glue of marriage."

Jiajun's mother said: "Is it a responsible attitude to treat marriage like a housewife and break it off as soon as possible?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "For the sake of your children, it would be irresponsible to forcefully tie two people you don't love together!"

Jiajun’s mother said: “What kind of mentality do you have?!”

Fan Yunxuan said: "Marriage is run by love, not by children. If two people don't have a good relationship, even if they don't divorce, their children will feel uncomfortable and hurt when they are together. Instead of that,

It’s better to get together and part ways.”

"That's nonsense!" Jiajun's mother shouted, her already low tone being raised a notch higher, "Why do you think so badly? The relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, and having children will make the relationship even more harmonious! The relationship will be even better!

Well, once you have a child, your relationship will get better!".

Fan Yunxuan said in a calm tone: "Mom, you have always had a misunderstanding that children are conducive to family harmony. In fact, many times when couples quarrel and conflicts are caused by children."

Jiajun's mother asked: "Who did you hear this from? It's pure nonsense!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Those emotional mediation programs on TV talk about it a lot! How to raise children, how to take care of children, how to educate children, who should send the children to school today, who should send the children to cram schools tomorrow, there are too many

There are too many things that can make couples quarrel. Will children who grow up in quarrels or cold wars be happy? So,

Children may not be the lubricant of a couple's relationship. Even if they can barely play a role in maintaining a marriage, such a family is not a happy family. And those DINK couples who love but have no children can enjoy their belongings while others are struggling.

Your own good life. Comparing the two, it is clear at a glance which one is better and which one is worse."

Jiajun's mother was still unconvinced and said: "Those who have children are miserable? Those who don't have children enjoy a good life? That's nonsense!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Facts speak louder than words. You have watched various TV programs. Some couples have separated, causing endless suffering to their children; some families have ceased to exist in name only, and their children spend all day long.

I shed tears. All this shows that children are not the insurance lock that maintains the stability of a family, but the harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the key to happiness."

Jiajun's mother said: "Everything shown on TV has problems. Most families are living well! If they are living well, there is no need for them to mediate!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Without children, you can have more time to pay attention to yourself, do more maintenance, and do more exercise; you can also have more time to pay attention to each other, and the relationship between husband and wife will naturally be more harmonious. On the contrary, if you have

When you have a child, you are so busy all day long that you have very little time to take care of yourself, and even less time to take care of the other person. It is inevitable that there will be complaints and quarrels, and the relationship will get worse and worse, so why bother?"

Jiajun's mother said: "There are many scenes on TV where two people have an affair because they have no children..."

Regarding the issue of extramarital affairs, Jiajun's mother didn't want to mention it. Firstly, it was a bit difficult to talk about it. Secondly, she didn't want to face such a problem. She didn't want to, and couldn't accept, such a problem between her son and his wife. But her offensive became more and more serious.

The fiercer the incident, the more violent the daughter-in-law's counterattack became, and she had no choice but to bring up this very lethal topic.

Fan Yunxuan said: "If that's the case, it means that there is no true love between them at all. It would be better not to have children, and there would be no worries about breaking up."

Jiajun's mother said angrily: "I understand, I finally understand what DINK is. You can leave anytime and anywhere, even if there is just a small problem, you can break up casually. This is DINK. Is there anything else?"

Do you have any sense of responsibility? What do you think of marriage? Are you playing house?!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Mom, you have misunderstood Dink. Their attitude towards marriage is often more serious. I think there is a gap in our understanding of this issue."

Jiajun's mother said angrily: "What a deviation! Do you think that your so-called true love can last for decades between two people? Love cannot last forever like the sun.

As long as the relationship continues, no matter how good the relationship is, there will be troughs. When the relationship between the couple is good, it is even better to have children; when the relationship enters the trough, the children can fill up the trough."

Fan Yunxuan said: "Emotions can be adjusted. Once they reach a low point, two people can find ways to expand new interests in life."

Jiajun's mother said: "The biggest problem you have now is that you view love too purely, so pure that even children can't tolerate it! Do you know how your DINK thoughts make people feel? It's a very bad feeling, all the time.

It feels like you are ready to go your separate ways at any moment! Aren’t you worried about your future at all?”

Fan Yunxuan said: "What are you worried about?"

Jiajun's mother said: "Without the adhesion of children, no matter how good a relationship is, it will be difficult to last."

Fan Yunxuan said: "Children may play a bonding role in the integrity of the family, but is the relationship supported by children a beautiful relationship?"

Jiajun's mother said: "The premise of beauty is to have feelings. As long as there are children connected, the feelings will not be broken."

Fan Yunxuan said: "The relationship is connected with children, which shows that there is too much missing in love. Even if there is still a little bit of love, it is definitely not sweet. The quality of such a marriage is too low."

Jiajun's mother said: "No one with high quality will last a lifetime. It's understandable that you are young now and have a higher spirit. Although Jiajun is also young, he is not as high-spirited as you. He is a very pragmatic person."

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Fan Yunxuan said: "Jiajun and I have a good relationship! Without worrying about the child, he and I can spend more time together shopping, traveling, and visiting relatives and friends. As long as two people are in the same mood, the child will be a drag.

Those couples with children will feel depressed because their emotional space has become smaller."

Jiajun's mother said: "Who did you hear this from? You figured it out on your own! Ask those young couples who have given birth to children, are they depressed? Has their emotional space become smaller? Children

It is the emotional bond between husband and wife. Without this bond, the marriage may be in trouble at any time! Yunxuan, let me ask you, do you really love Jiajun?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "If I don't love him, how can I marry him?"

Jiajun's mother said: "Children are the crystallization of love. Since we love each other, why are we so unwilling to have this crystallization?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Jiajun and I came together because of love. We don't need children to prove our love for each other."

Jiajun's mother said: "If a woman truly loves her man, she will definitely be willing to give birth to him. If you are so unwilling to give birth, it only means that you love yourself, not Jiajun!"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Mom, you are a woman and you have experienced the pain of giving birth. Why do you have to force me to go through this pain? If I like children, I will be willing to endure no matter how much pain it takes. The problem is

I don't like children at all."
Chapter completed!