Wang Jiayi said: "It turns out that 'good intentions are rewarded' is a fallacy."

Ren Li said: "Yes, it is a fallacy. Good intentions between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law may not necessarily be rewarded. Some people say that as long as they are careful, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will get along like mother and daughter. It is nonsense! People who say this

I’ve definitely never been a wife before, just standing and talking doesn’t hurt my back.”

Fan Yunxuan said: "We are not related by blood to my mother-in-law. Being able to get along well is an illusion. Not being able to get along is reality. I think we should give up unrealistic fantasies from now on and face reality."

Ren Li said: "That's right, we can't continue to be angry buns. We should make sticks when it's time to make sticks. Making buns is painful, but making sticks is happy. Between pain and happiness, we must choose to be happy.

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Fan Yunxuan said: "If we make sticks, will we really be happy?"

Wang Jiayi said: "At least my husband will definitely not be happy."

Ren Li said: "Making buns makes me feel uncomfortable; making sticks makes my husband feel uncomfortable. Why is it so difficult to be a daughter-in-law?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "I think it's because we didn't have a good sense of proportion."

Ren Li said: "We shouldn't have a hot face but a cold butt."

Fan Yunxuan said: "We should not have too high expectations. We treat them as customers. What is our mentality towards customers? It is an expectation mentality, expecting to get big returns from customers. Now it seems that this kind of

The idea is wrong. You cannot treat your mother-in-law as a customer. If you have no expectations, there will be no disappointment and sadness."

Ren Li asked: "Then what do we think of our mother-in-law? She can't be just air, right?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Be a guest."

Wang Jiayi and Ren Li said at the same time: "Guest?"

Fan Yunxuan said: "Yes, when you are a guest, what is the way to get along with the guests? Be polite in your words and be courteous in your actions. If she says something you don't like to hear, you can't contradict her face to face, because she is '

Guest, you are the 'host', and the host must be humble to the guests."

Ren Li said: "Hey, this is a good idea. She is the 'guest' and I am the 'host'. I will always be the 'guest' for her. Let her see me like meeting the lobby manager of the hotel. Although she

It’s a smiling face, but there seems to be a layer of veil in front of the smiling face, hazy.”

Fan Yunxuan and Wang Jiayi both laughed.

Wang Jiayi said: "How do you say that idiom, the appearance is the same but the spirit is separate, it refers to this state."

Ren Li said: "Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, being as close as mother and daughter is a foolish dream. Only Amitabha can maintain the superficial calm."

This is how a new policy on how to get along with mothers-in-law was released. According to this policy, the three mothers-in-law unknowingly became the inner leaders of the three daughters-in-law. The principle for them to get along with their leaders is to be polite on the surface, but never

Now, this principle of getting along with each other also applies to mothers-in-law.

If her husband is not at home, then the home becomes a company for Fan Yunxuan. Whatever the mother-in-law, the leader, asks, she just answers without saying a word more. She is afraid that if she says too much, she doesn’t know which sentence will cause new problems.

contradiction.

Once Ren Li found out that her mother-in-law was about to start a war, she quickly changed the topic, diverted her mother-in-law's attention, and praised her mother-in-law. For example, her clothes are so beautiful today, and her new hair style is so beautiful. She received praise from her daughter-in-law,

When He Qi's mother was happy, she forgot to scold her. In order to further silence her mother-in-law, Ren Li would peel an orange or peel an apple for her mother-in-law at the right time and hand it to her.

Wang Jiayi almost regarded her mother-in-law as a transparent person because she really couldn't find a common topic with her. Even if there were common topics, she was too lazy to communicate with her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law's jealous accent was really unpleasant.

The other side of risk avoidance is actually hidden conflicts. Living under the same roof every day, hidden conflicts will erupt sooner or later. The outbreak may be violent or not violent, but it will be long-lasting.

Although Wang Jiayi did not do anything bad to her mother-in-law, her indifference to her mother-in-law would still make Sun Haowen uncomfortable.

Sun Haowen asked: "Why do you always ignore me?"

Wang Jiayi asked back: "You focus on your mother all day long, worrying about whether your mother will be happy and whether your mother will adapt to life here. Apart from that, what else is on your mind?"

Sun Haowen said: "If you don't want to accompany your mother, no one will say anything wrong about you. If I don't spend more time with her, how lonely will she be!"

Wang Jiayi said: "Have you ever thought about how to make your mother and I live a happier life?"

Sun Haowen said: "We are now free from illness and disaster, and live a stable life. Aren't we quite happy?"

Wang Jiayi said: "Stability is happiness, right? How did you emerge from that poor ravine with a mentality like yours?"

Sun Haowen said: "Just because I came from a poor ravine, I am very satisfied with everything I have now."

Wang Jiayi said: "Are you willing to be a little technician forever?"

Sun Haowen said: "In the future, I may be the chief of the technical section or the director of the technical department, but this has to be done step by step..."

Wang Jiayi interrupted him: "When you get over it, we will all become old men and old ladies."

Sun Haowen smiled and said: "Live a normal life and grow old slowly. What's wrong with that?"

Wang Jiayi said: "If this situation continues, when will we be able to buy a big house? When will we be able to buy a car?"

Sun Haowen said: "Don't we have a house to live in now? Cars pollute the environment. Now the whole world is promoting environmental protection, why do we have to buy a car? Aren't the subways very fast?"

Wang Jiayi said angrily: "The subway is very fast, but it will squeeze me into the photo! I can see that in your life, you can still drink boiled water every day!"

Sun Haowen understood what Wang Jiayi meant. She wanted him to go to a foreign company with better treatment, or to open his own company and earn more money. But he only knew technology and was not good at interpersonal communication, let alone management, so,

He knows his position very well and is suitable for a stable job.

He works and lives an ordinary life. In his opinion, there is nothing wrong with being ordinary, but in Wang Jiayi's eyes, being ordinary is ordinary, ordinary is mediocre, and has no ambition. She hopes that her husband can fight in the clouds like an eagle.

Instead of being like a sparrow, just satisfied with a good meal. As

A man doesn't want to have great ambitions and achieve a big career, but is a big career so easy to do? How many people are ambitious at the beginning and want to do a big career, but in the end they lose everything?

Are there still few examples? He knows his own character, he can’t bear this kind of

Even though he was struggling, he didn't have the courage to take this risk. As a man in science and engineering, what he lacked most was rationality. At the same time, he also knew that as a fashion designer, Wang Jiayi had far more emotional components than rationality in his mind. He had to use his own

Reason can be reconciled with Wang Jiayi's sensibility, so that balance can be achieved.

Sun Haowen said: "Jiayi, suppose you designed two sets of clothes. One set you don't like, but others think it is good, and are willing to pay a high price for it; the other set you are very satisfied with and like, but others don't think it is good.

, the evaluation is not high either. Which of these two sets of clothes do you think can better reflect your sense of accomplishment?"

Wang Jiayi said: "Of course it's the second set."

Sun Haowen asked: "Why?"

Wang Jiayi said: "What I like and what I am satisfied with must reflect my talent and creativity. Only works that reflect my talent and creativity will have more value."

Sun Haowen said: "That's right, what if we can become a couple? We have similar values! Doing what you really like to do, although there may not be big financial rewards, will make you feel fulfilled.

and practicality. For example, if a certain mechanical equipment in my unit breaks down, no one else can solve it. Only I can solve it. The joy brought by this sense of accomplishment is particularly pure..."

Wang Jiayi interrupted him: "It turns out that you are brainwashing me by going around. I know what you want to say next. You will definitely say that everyone's understanding of success is different, and success may not necessarily be in a secular sense.

success."

Sun Haowen said: "Yes, doing a job that can reflect your life value for a lifetime is also a success, and it is a success that transcends social value evaluation. It is like a great scientist who has developed some kind of scientific research that can promote social progress.

As a result, although he does not earn as much money as big stars, you cannot say that he is not as successful as big stars."

Wang Jiayi said: "With your mentality, you are destined to be an ordinary person in this life."

Sun Haowen said: "The most eternal happiness in the world is ordinary. You don't have to worry about eating or drinking. How happy you are to have a happy little nest!"

Wang Jiayi said: "You don't have to go out to work, you can enjoy what you call a stable job, but what about your salary? Apart from paying it to the bank in full every month, what else do you have left?"

If her mother-in-law did not live here, Wang Jiayi would have been able to tolerate Sun Haowen's mentality of being content with being a little rich, or in other words, this small-farmer mentality. However, her mother-in-law's arrival greatly reduced her happiness and living space.

The space left her depressed, and the compressed happiness made her even more painful. What she said to Sun Haowen was not so much forcing him to make more money, but rather venting the anger and pain in her heart.

Her venting successfully transferred her anger and pain to Sun Haowen's heart: Yes, I just want stability and worry about going out to work. Not only will there be no results, but I will also lose my job as a technician in a state-owned enterprise. That is not only

Fetching water from bamboo basket

It's as simple as going out of business and starting over again, but the consequences may be disastrous. You may not even have the money to pay off the mortgage, let alone have the opportunity to start over. But if you don't go out and make a living, just relying on this little salary is better.

How can Yi get happiness? I

Jiayi's happiness is a small house, and Jiayi's happiness is a big house and a car. By the way, I also owe her a glorious wedding. I promised Jiayi that when conditions permit, I will

We held a replacement wedding and it was glorious. But

, if this continues, when will I have this condition? He suddenly felt incompetent. He studied hard since he was a child, worked hard, was admitted to university, and then went to graduate school. After graduation, he successfully worked as a technician in a well-known large state-owned enterprise.

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He also married a beautiful wife and thought he would live happily, but now he realizes that a happy life must be guaranteed by generous material conditions. He has no ability to make more money, so he has lost the ability to live a happy life.

Premise. Such a conclusion allows

Sun Haowen felt in pain, but he was powerless to change and could only continue to suffer. He was like a person who was injured and bleeding. He knew that applying ointment would heal the injury, and knowing that wrapping it in gauze would stop the bleeding, but he had no ointment.

There is no gauze, so I can only look at the blood

It flows drop by drop... If the blood continues to flow, people will die; if the pain continues like this, what will happen to people? What will happen to his marriage to Jiayi? Sun Haowen did not dare to continue to think about it, and there was an ominous feeling in his heart.

A sign... Although, it is just a sign

However, the ominous omen was so strong that he had no intention of doing anything else and was focused on thinking about countermeasures. An idea suddenly appeared in his mind - having a child, the child would stabilize their marriage. Yes, they need a child.
Chapter completed!