"I have to face this very obvious reality, let alone deceive myself." Hua Banzhi looked at her calmly with her eyes and said calmly, "Sometimes, blood relationship cannot represent what? No matter what feelings, family, friendship, and even the relationship between men and women, they can only be produced after contact with each other. The relationship between mother and son, father and son, and the development of this emotion originates from the process of raising."

"As you said, it's strange that Guangming shouldn't have such a deep attachment to you." Zhuo Erya said, blinking his puzzled eyes and looking at her.

"Along the way to find his father, you need to know the relationship we have built up for life, and you will know why." Hua Banzhi looked at her with deep eyes and said, "If you don't say it's a life-threatening death! It's also very difficult!"

"Although it's just liberated, it's not peace in the world." Zhuo Erya looked at her with some admiration. She was different from herself. She was used to following the organization and traveling around the world. She was not afraid of heaven or earth.

You make a person who has never traveled far away from the gate to the outside of the gate, and then from the outside of the gate to the inside of the gate, it is difficult to just think about it!

No wonder Guangmingming found her father but lived with her.

Hua Banzhi looked at her coldly in her eyes and said, "If you don't have a stepmother, you will have a stepfather. Both of them have jobs, and Guangming followed them without proper care. With their own children, they were even more neglected. Even if they sent the children back to their hometown, can he still get a good education?"

"Uh... you thought so thoughtful." Cheng Yunling had to admit that she was right and could not argue. She grunted for a long time, "What should you do?"

"Me?" Hua Banzhi's lively eyes flashed slightly, and she raised her eyebrows and looked at her, "Why do I have to rely on others to support myself?"

"You should have your own life." Zhuoerya gently held her hand, "Now that they are liberated, they will not come to persecute you again."

Hua Banzhi was grabbed by her warm hands and smiled, "Even if there is no light, that's a pity. If a couple has children, they will never treat each other as their own. Because there is no blood relationship, both husband and wife have their own little plan. In short, they will keep one hand and will not give all their feelings to each other. No matter how sincere you are, you will not get everything from each other."

Hua Banzhi looked at them rationally and said, "It's hard to be a stepmother! People look for their daughter-in-law not for any relationship, they just find a woman who helps him take care of the children. So you have to take care of the children, but when they are loose, they say you don't care about them, the child is unhappy, and they say you are not my mother, why do you care about me? In short, it's not human beings inside or outside." After a pause, he then said, "It's even harder for widows. You can never compare to a dead person. Every Qingming Festival, he will take his children to visit the grave of his ex-wife; he will never forget to burn paper for his mother on New Year's Eve; he often takes his children to see his grandmother and grandpa; when the child asks his mother what kind of person he is, you will hear him describe his ex-wife in a gentle tone; you are heartbroken and let the child call you mother, but there must be photos of his mother in the room. What do you feel in your heart?"

"Stop talking." Zhuo Erya shook her head slightly, "What you said is really heartbreaking."

"Especially, I have to take my child with him. Can he regard him as his own offspring? What if he beats and scolds the child?" Hua Banzhi looked at her with clear eyes and said, "Marrying is a lifelong thing. If you don't think clearly, you don't have enough confidence to deal with these existing problems, how can you dare to marry someone rashly! That's irresponsible."

"You think so much." Zhuoerya said with his tongue wide open.

"A lifelong thing needs to be carefully considered. Don't wait until you get married, and find that marriage itself cannot improve a person's happiness. It's different from what you imagined and regret it again. If I had known today, why would you have to be the beginning?" Hua Banzhi looked at her quietly and said, "No one will sympathize with you. If there is any, you may also say it. You may wonder how you are stupid and stupid. You have chosen such a person."

"But life plans cannot keep up with the changes. It is impossible for everything to follow your ideas. What should you do then?" Zhuo Erya said at her curiously.

"The plan cannot keep up with changes. It is a congenital deficit for hidden dangers that already exist. For example, I am a conceivable contradiction. You can't ignore it!" Hua Banzhi said with clear black and white eyes looking at her.

"I agree with this." Cheng Yunling nodded heavily and said, "Are she and Fanchun the same?"

"Oh! As long as you get married, no matter whether you are born with innate or not, you have to adjust your mentality. Marriage has ten thousand goals. The most important thing is that you know what you want." Hua Banzhi raised her eyebrows and looked at them and said, "There is always a plan to enter the marriage, to see the relationship, to see the food and clothing, to see the status, to see the other party be good to you... The future of the relationship may not be unswerving, to see the food and clothing may not be able to make a living, to see the status and to see the position and to see the other party be kind to you, but to see the position and to see the other party be kind to you may not be really comfortable to serve." He pointed at their hearts and said, "Think about what do you want?"

Zhuo Erya looked at her thoughtfully, silently, what was she trying to do? Suddenly, she shook her head again, what were she thinking? She was so embarrassed.

Hua Banzhi looked at her cheeks flushed. What are they thinking? Her face is like peach blossoms. Is spring coming and the little girl also misses spring?

If this is the case, Hua Banzhi doesn't mind saying more, "Erya is right. Even if you think carefully about your marriage life before marriage and think that you know each other again, you will definitely encounter a lot of things and problems you never expect after marriage. Before marriage, either your prediction of your marriage life is too ideal, or you don't consider what your marriage life is like. In both cases, men and women will have very fragile understanding and control ability. In a long marriage, there are actually unknowns and even crises everywhere, so when you decide to enter the marriage, you must have an awareness: what tests your marriage is not your ability to deal with known problems, but your ability to deal with unknown problems. With this psychological preparation, you can still maintain a relatively calm mind when encountering various problems in your marriage and ensure that you will not make irrational decisions."

"Who can really be rational!" Zhuoerya said, covering her cheeks with both hands.

"So! Marriage is not the whole of life, not everyone needs it, but if you decide to get married, then you must take good care of it, cherish it, and treat it well." Hua Banzhi's eyes shone with a wise light, "Marriage is an umbrella, and life is sunny most of the time."
Chapter completed!